Caring for an aging care recipient can be an overwhelming responsibility.
Meeting the emotional and medical needs of a care recipient, plus having the time to devote to your own needs and interests, can be difficult.
Here are some tips to help you cope.
1. Put your care recipient’s papers in order.
–Financial. Find out where your care recipient keeps financial information, including investments, bank accounts and tax returns. Find out names of lawyers, bankers and accountants. Also, locate life insurance policies, birth certificates, and funeral arrangements papers.
–Medical. Find the names and phone numbers of all physicians as well as information about all prescribed medications. Also, find social security and Medicare cards. Complete living wills and durable powers of attorney for health care.
2. Learn about your care recipient’s medical condition.
Speak with the physician about your care recipient’s diagnosis as well as prognosis. Ask what you can expect in the future.
Spend time in the library and/or on the Internet conducting your own research. Also, contact local agencies, such as the Alzheimer’s Association, Cancer Society and Arthritis Foundation. These organizations have myriad literature and information available. They can be a great resource for future problems you may encounter.
3. Discuss plan of care with other family members.
Make sure all family members have the same information that you do. If possible, involve your care recipient in discussions. Find out what your care recipient’s wishes are in regard to her care and living situations.
Find out what your family members can do to help. Even out-of-state relatives can help. Based on your care recipient’s wishes and the availability of family members, develop a plan of care. For instance, who will help Mom with her groceries? Who will help Mom bathe and dress in the morning? Who will take Mom to her doctors’ appointments?
4. Find help.
No one person can take on all the responsibilities. Programs and assistance may be available to you. Contact your local Area Agency on Aging and your state’s Department of Aging.
5. Make time for yourself.
Set aside time regularly so you can pursue your own interests and hobbies. Caregiving is stressful. All caregivers need time away–it’s good for the caregiver and the care recipient.
Attend a support group regularly. Or, find an outlet for you to vent your frustrations, such as to friends and families, or in your daily journal.
6. Become an educated caregiver.
Learn about hands-on techniques, such as transferring safely, proper skin care and lifting properly. Ask your home health aides or visiting nurses to show you the proper techniques. Or, attend a caregiving class offered in your community. Your local American Red Cross office may have information about caregiving classes.
Purchase a diary you can use to log your care recipient’s health. Make notes about meal consumption, techniques that worked, when medication was dispensed and any changes in medical condition. This journal will be helpful during doctor appointments and when other family members ask for updates.
7. Set limits.
Determine at what point you can no longer care for your care recipient, or at what point you feel she will be unsafe in her own home. For instance, some family caregivers determine that they are uncomfortable providing care when a care recipient becomes incontinent.
8. Plan for the future.
Seek out the options available in your community that will be appropriate when you can no longer care for your care recipient. Visit several retirement centers, assisted living facilities and nursing homes to find one that you are comfortable with and that can provide the appropriate level of care.
9. Respect your care recipient.
Although your care recipient may seem to be acting “childish”, she is not a child. Respect her need for independence and choices. Encourage her to do as much for herself as possible–you’ll both benefit.
10. Be a resource for other family caregivers.
Share your experience and knowledge. The best resource for family caregivers is other family caregivers.
I would like to know how to get a certificate for caregiving. I take care of someone in the College Park area near University of Md. Also how do I get paid for this. I have been and want to get some idea how long the couse is and get my certificate of certification. Could you provide me this information and how I could attend a course short-term or do it on line, I have been taking care of a friend for a long time and now he is ill. I want to make sure of the certification. Would like more information asap. I saw that the Red Cross offers it but does any of the hospitals offer it. How do and how would I get paid for this although but I am with this person and take care of him 24 hours around the clock. This is independent living I am living in take to doctor’s and I am buying groceries where they only receive 17.00 in food stamps. Now who is taking care of who. I know I do this from the heart but give it a break. The information you gave me great. but let me know how to get a certificate short=term. You are right I need free time for myself. I get stressed out sometimes. Where is the nearest facilitiy to see about this.
Hi–You can contact your local community colleges to learn about training courses for certified caregivers. You also can call local home care agencies to find out where they train their caregivers. You also can call your local Area Agency on Aging (call the ElderCare Locator at 1-800-677-1116); the agency also can tell you about programs, including training ones, that may be available to help you.
caregiving for relatives and nieghbors
could be that the depression is as contagious as a cold
seems that i enter a relationship with those who i provide care for
and how do i end up catching their cold?
Ahh… the beauty of boundaries is that they keep away the cold. This article may help: http://www.caregiving.com/2009/02/how-do-i-deal-with-the-guilt-when-i-leave/