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Do you live in the mistakes of yesterday?
It’s okay that something went wrong yesterday or last week or last year or last decade. We are imperfect beings, meant to live imperfect lives.
Mistakes of yesterday only become problems when they cloud our opportunities of today. Don’t let yesterday’s mistakes rob you of today’s blessings.
Let go of yesterday. Live today.
Tags: forgiveness, frustration, guilt
Im so glad I saw this today. I work every day on throwing the bad memories of the past away so I loved seeing this so much. I have been journaling for five years now. I started them because I wanted to have something to leave behind one day. I have recently begun reading them and while some of the days are just like today, laundry, shopping, etc. there are others that I read and say wow, who was that lady. I had a childhood that did not have much complimenting or pushing to do the best we can. Both Mom and Dad worked. My Dad had a bit of a drinking problem…nothing abusive…he was a very hard worker..we never did without…it was more embarrassing to us. When your friends are over and your father has been drinking its disturbing. I loved him very much though…anyway, I grew up with lots of anxiety. I think I got sick almost every day between elementary school up until about the time I started journaling five years ago. I had fears of getting sick in public. This started when I told my mother I couldnt stand anything tight on my neck and she insisted I wear a scarf to school when I was little and wrapped it so tight I got sick all over my coat and boy did I get punished for that lol..I was very nervous.I could not go to the dentist..I was so scared..so the dentist office would write my note that I was there.forget the doctor. I did not have school shots because I was just so nervous..he also signed my papers and told mom she must get me calm and bring me back as I need the shots. Its funny when my son was born something in my blood showed I did not have certain shots..they gave them to me when I was in the hospital after having delivered him. I now however have learned they did the best they could with what they knew how to do. I met my husband and literally got sick on our first date..he was taking me to dinner and I was sick outside the restaurant before even going in lol..the poor guy…he still dated me and we are still married 29 years later. He went through a lot with me. I one day saw my son behaving the same way I did. He was getting sick before school and I was shocked. That was a lightbulb momemt for me for sure. We took him to a therapist and his was corrected quickly. Mine was baby steps…I said I must stop this behaviour..so my husband took me to wendys and I ate two fries and made me eat them and took me for a walk and wow I survived…next week was a restaurant…I had two tomateoes in the salad and wrapped the rest to take home but again survived and it just went on and on from there. I now eat out all the time which is probably why I have high cholesterol now. It is very easy to blame my mother…it is very easy to say what was wrong with you…it is easier to forgive, especially now that I am caring for her. I am so incredibly proud of myself…my 2005 journals were so filled with fear….I want to leave them behind so my loved ones will see I too had secrets and work that needed to be done. None of us are perfect…but i want them to be read so the person understands work on the problems…no sense blaming..let go of yesterday as you say…throw out the bad junk…live for today…the present…isnt it funny..present and gift mean the same..I have been given a gift…I still have work to do on me but sure am glad Im not that girl I was in 2005. Last week we were in olive garden and I ate the salad, breadsticks, chickem marsala and tirimasu ..and my husband was just smiling. He doest like to verbally remind me…thoughts create and he is always afraid if it gets into my head I will go back to my old ways…I said, I know why your smiling…you cant believe this can you? I read with him my wendys journal entry of that scared lady with the fries yesterday and he said Im so proud of you…Im proud of me to. So whatever your demons, throw them away right now!!…throw away those bab memories…enjoy the gift of today!!!!!!!!!!
Now, I work on the cholesterol lol…and dont you worry..I am going to deal with that too…I will eat out….just less cheese lol
thanks for reading
What a wonderful story! It’s wonderful because it’s full of victories, like a victory garden.
Good for you! And, you’re right about the power of our thoughts. I often think our toughest battles occur between our ears. When we believe we can, that we deserve, then we achieve and receive. Even better–it’s all true. We can and we deserve. Thanks so much for sharing.
Forgiveness is often viewed as a weakness. It is just the opposite. In order to forgive we must be strong. Forgiveness is powerful. Forgiveness does not mean we minimize or deny what a person has done, but it does mean that we should not be judgmental or resentful of them. In reality, we are not forgiving the person, but what the person has done. Forgiveness is not about someone else, it is about us. Forgiving ourselves and others is one of the greatest gifts we have. When we choose to forgive, we open the doors of the present and future, and give ourselves the gift of today. To quote Mahatma Gandhi; “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. Forgiveness is the inner strength that can helps us heal and liberates our soul.”
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So true…if we dont judge in the first place there will be nothing to forgive. Most of my bitterness was based on opinion of how I felt they were handling me…I judged them but was not walking in their shoes. If we just try and accept people as they are and not judge there will be no reason to feel hurt or upset by anyone. Im so glad that Im learning to create my own joy and not worry about what others may think or say. Im learning each day to just keep the good stuff with me and rid myself of the silliness that cost me such pain and sickness for way to long…50 is great….I mayed a vow this was the year I am working on me and so far so good….
My soul is definately liberated….