Happy Halloween!

Diane, wheelchair-bound as a result of a severe stroke five years ago, described herself as “hell on wheels.” Her description became her daughters’ inspiration for Diane’s Halloween costume; they decorated Diane’s chair with flames and a pitchfork; Diane picked out a bright red sweat pant outfit to wear. A sign on the wheelchair reading “Hell on Wheels” completed the ensemble.

It’s become one of Diane’s favorite Halloween memories.

Your care recipient may not be able to participate in Halloween (Halloween can be scary for someone with dementia) and perhaps creating costumes isn’t your forte (it’s not mine). What’s great about milestones and markers, such as Halloween, is their opportunity for you to reminisce with your care recipient.

Treat yourself to a Snickers bar (and your care recipient, if diet allows) and take the time to ask about Halloween memories:

1. What did your care recipient enjoy about the holiday?
2. How was Halloween celebrated when your care recipient was a child?
3. What Halloween memory stands out?
4. What does your care recipient remember about Halloweens celebrated when you were a child?

Your conversation may last five minutes—or five hours. It’s not the length of the conversation but the connection. The connection you create and any insights you gain will be the sweetest part of your Halloween.

What Halloween traditions will you enjoy with your care recipient? Please sure to share in our comments section.

(And, be sure to share your Halloween with us. Take photos of you in costume or of your decorated house and post them on our Facebook Fan Page.)