Results of a new study say that your care recipient prefers you as the caregiver over a trained professional. Your care recipient is happiest when a family member provides care.
But, you already know that. You know that because of the resistance you receive when you try to bring in professional help.
This study was interesting to me because of the perspective it took. The study asked the question of care recipients: Are you happier receiving care from a family member or from a paid professional?
Asking just that question, though, overlooks an important factor: Can the family caregiver afford emotionally to be the only one who provides care?
I think it’s important to know that your care recipient loves that you are involved in care. But, it’s also important to remember that one person providing care to a frail elderly person with multiple chronic illnesses is a tall order. To go it alone is tough. Sometimes, you have to sacrifice a little of your care recipient’s happiness to ensure you both make it through the long haul of caregiving.
The bottom line: Take turns sharing the happiness. Your care recipient is happy when you provide care. You’re happy when you have the option to hire a professional to lessen your load. It’s a great way to keep a scale balanced.