Comments on: When Bombs Drop (and They Will)… http://www.caregiving.com/2009/11/when-bombs-drop-and-they-will/ Insights ~ Information ~ Inspirations Thu, 09 Feb 2012 18:15:17 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Miss R http://www.caregiving.com/2009/11/when-bombs-drop-and-they-will/comment-page-1/#comment-23841 Miss R Tue, 26 Jan 2010 19:21:17 +0000 http://www.caregiving.com/?p=3698#comment-23841 "How do you go about life when death and decline won’t go away?" This is something I have been struggling with over the last year. I hear about my friends going out and having fun, maybe getting married, maybe having kids...and I'm here with my disabled grandmother, completely isolated and reminded every second of death and decline. (And then I feel guilty for even thinking that way!) It has worn on me for months and I've only been able to recognize it as this, recently. Just being able to put words to it helps to overcome it. I might go sit in the car and listen to an audiobook today. I know that doesn't sound THAT fun, but I'll take what I can get at the moment! .-= Miss R´s last blog ..<a href="http://imovetoes.blogspot.com/2010/01/age-of-invisibility-by-eissa-stein.html" rel="nofollow">The Age Of Invisibility by Eissa Stein</a> =-. “How do you go about life when death and decline won’t go away?”

This is something I have been struggling with over the last year. I hear about my friends going out and having fun, maybe getting married, maybe having kids…and I’m here with my disabled grandmother, completely isolated and reminded every second of death and decline. (And then I feel guilty for even thinking that way!) It has worn on me for months and I’ve only been able to recognize it as this, recently. Just being able to put words to it helps to overcome it.

I might go sit in the car and listen to an audiobook today. I know that doesn’t sound THAT fun, but I’ll take what I can get at the moment!
.-= Miss R´s last blog ..The Age Of Invisibility by Eissa Stein =-.

]]> By: donna ryan http://www.caregiving.com/2009/11/when-bombs-drop-and-they-will/comment-page-1/#comment-17231 donna ryan Wed, 18 Nov 2009 19:48:11 +0000 http://www.caregiving.com/?p=3698#comment-17231 Bravo Linda.... I have written in one of my blogs somewhere that we must still have a life once this job is over and done with. We also must establish a life while doing this very important job and all jobs require some away time. You are not disrespecting your mom one bit by going out once in a while and having fun. It makes me feel badly sometimes to leave my Mother but it must be done from time to time. Post us when you do go out and give us all the fun details :) Denise this was a wonderful post!!..It really helps people feel that it is ok to leave the chaos for a while. We must take care of ourselves in order to be good caregivers to others..... Bravo Linda….
I have written in one of my blogs somewhere that we must still have a life once this job is over and done with. We also must establish a life while doing this very important job and all jobs require some away time. You are not disrespecting your mom one bit by going out once in a while and having fun. It makes me feel badly sometimes to leave my Mother but it must be done from time to time. Post us when you do go out and give us all the fun details :)
Denise this was a wonderful post!!..It really helps people feel that it is ok to leave the chaos for a while. We must take care of ourselves in order to be good caregivers to others…..

]]> By: Linda http://www.caregiving.com/2009/11/when-bombs-drop-and-they-will/comment-page-1/#comment-17227 Linda Wed, 18 Nov 2009 15:51:50 +0000 http://www.caregiving.com/?p=3698#comment-17227 This article has changed me from a no person to a yes person again. This article is so me. I was so serious that I even changed my answering machine from a very happy go lucky message with horses whinnying hello, to a very serious message. Someone asks me out, I'm going. Mom can get into a snit as much as she wants. That too will pass. This article has changed me from a no person to a yes person again. This article is so me. I was so serious that I even changed my answering machine from a very happy go lucky message with horses whinnying hello, to a very serious message. Someone asks me out, I’m going. Mom can get into a snit as much as she wants. That too will pass.

]]> By: Sharon http://www.caregiving.com/2009/11/when-bombs-drop-and-they-will/comment-page-1/#comment-17136 Sharon Wed, 18 Nov 2009 00:10:59 +0000 http://www.caregiving.com/?p=3698#comment-17136 How true! Good article. How true! Good article.

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