http://www.caregiving.com/2010/02/ask-denise-is-the-guilt-about-self-esteem/ Insights ~ Information ~ Inspirations Fri, 10 Feb 2012 05:57:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://www.caregiving.com/2010/02/ask-denise-is-the-guilt-about-self-esteem/comment-page-1/#comment-25236 donna Tue, 09 Feb 2010 00:22:57 +0000 http://www.caregiving.com/?p=4817#comment-25236 great post Denise...As you know you helped me remove myself from the guilt in deciding should I bring my 91 year old mom to my husbands nieces bridal shower. You were kind enough to give me things to ponder and made my decision to bring her easier. I suppose it is guilt I feel, but I also feel very sad as she doesnt get out much and it makes me uncomfortable to be getting all dressed up and leaving her when I know she really wants to go. I compromised...I will hopefully give her a fun afternoon at the shower where she will be yelling to me after every gift that either she cant see it, or she cant hear who it was from hahahaha...We compromised however that we will not be bringing her to the wedding. The church is one place, then we have to go to the reception hall. It will be far too late and long of a day. I felt bad having that conversation but I also told myself she had 91 wonderful years, I am a good daughter and she is very cared for and I deserve a nice evening out with my husband with no worries...so we compromise....that is something you learn to do when caregiving....now everyone pray...she behaves lol lol.... these will one day be my memories:) great post Denise…As you know you helped me remove myself from the guilt in deciding should I bring my 91 year old mom to my husbands nieces bridal shower. You were kind enough to give me things to ponder and made my decision to bring her easier. I suppose it is guilt I feel, but I also feel very sad as she doesnt get out much and it makes me uncomfortable to be getting all dressed up and leaving her when I know she really wants to go. I compromised…I will hopefully give her a fun afternoon at the shower where she will be yelling to me after every gift that either she cant see it, or she cant hear who it was from hahahaha…We compromised however that we will not be bringing her to the wedding. The church is one place, then we have to go to the reception hall. It will be far too late and long of a day. I felt bad having that conversation but I also told myself she had 91 wonderful years, I am a good daughter and she is very cared for and I deserve a nice evening out with my husband with no worries…so we compromise….that is something you learn to do when caregiving….now everyone pray…she behaves lol lol….
these will one day be my memories:)

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