It’s not that I don’t love Valentine’s Day. I just really love the day after. When it’s over.
I can get through stress of the December holidays, worrying whether certain family members will wreak havoc on our (hopefully) joyful time. I gut it out when I face another birthday and turn another year older.
But, the celebration of love, when the love I want lacks, can be a day full of sad reminders.
We often talk about how hard the December holidays can be. But, I wonder, how hard is Valentine’s Day for you? I have a friend who said on Monday: “Valentine’s Day is coming up. I really dread it, but I’m putting myself in a generous mood for my wife. And, we have theatre tickets so I’m covered.”
Ugh.
So, tell us: Do you embrace Valentine’s Day? If you do, I’d love to hear it!
Or, do you look forward to the 15th, like me? I’d love to hear that, too.
And, oh, by the way, Happy Day Before Valentine’s Day!!
I used to love Valentine’s Day. My husband and I would exchange cards and usually go out to eat. Some of the fun of that is gone now, however,because of my husband’s illness. I do still enjoy sending cards to the grandkids and the Moms, however. Even some of that has gone by the wayside this year with the busyness of moving.
I have had to let pretty much all holidays and “special days” come and go. My husband over the years, has grown to dislike them and if he didn’t have the money to do what he wanted to do, he would do nothing at all, including birthdays and Christmas. So, rather then go through the hurt and disappointment year after year, I shove the emotions aside and ignore the day. I breather a sigh of relief on the day after every special day or holiday. Sad, I know.
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Of course the commercials make valentines day all about romance…the chocolates, flowers and jewelry so I can totally understand how the day could make some very sad. My sister has been divorced for a very long time and absolutely hates the day so much. Its hard for me to hate it because I fortunately have someone who I love so much. I will say this however, I think Valentines day is way over rated. I think we should be loving to one another every single day. Its not just about romance either like all the ads want you to believe. My 22 year old son just said to me I bought grandma a valentine…I said how nice Sean and kiddingly said, did I get one too lol..he said maybe!!..that is the ulitmate joy..when your grown kids remember you…but even if you dont have that tomorrow…find some way of showing love. you can make things pleasant without spending tons of money…find the joy somehow…and know this too will pass.
because I have been away for five weeks and just returned I did buy kevin a box of chocolates and we may take mom to brunch. my son is a waiter temporarily while waiting for a city position here in ny…but is working tomorrow. we were going to take mom to brunch and give him a little extra tip…it wont be a big romantic dinner but one filled with lots of love….we just returned home from a bridal shower and mom is pooped so we might just cook in if she is tired. I wont leave her on valentines day for sure…its not just about romance…its about LOVE!!!
I sort of forgot about Valentine’s Day this year since I wasn’t around MY own Valentine. I remembered the day before and made sure to get cards for my Gram and my Mom, so that was kinda fun. Mom helped me build a nice bouquet for Gramma, as well. She got some Betty Boop socks, chocolate, and a few cards in the mail, too.
The only downer was Gram asking me to keep an eye on the front porch because one of her friends from back east (who hasn’t really been around much since her health has declined) usually sends her flowers on Valentine’s Day. The weather had been very cold and she was worried about them freezing. She asked me every day for about three or four days, but no flowers ever came.
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