My husband and I were talking yesterday about how he had to come up with some “tricks” to get mom to eat Monday night. He was interacting with her and her teddy bear, “bear buddy”. Usually mom resists being fed by anyone but me, so he is as he calls it, becoming “savvy” at how to deal with her. He comes up with ideas that basically distract her from the fact that it is he who is feeding her and not me, and she eats.
A week ago when I went to church, he fed her breakfast, well the same scenario was taking place, she was not going to eat for him. So, he brought our youngest grandson in the room and he sat in her wheelchair and on her bed and talked with her. She smiled and smiled at him (can’t help but do that, he is the Trent!). So, she was quite distracted by him and Gary was able to get her to eat her food.
I am quite pleased he has become “savvy”, it is much better than becoming frustrated with the situation when she refuses to eat and it becomes a successful meal time!
Sly as a fox, wise as an owl!
Hi Donna! It sounds like you and your husband make an awesome team. I love how he considers the problem solvable, and then concentrates on finding the solution. And, how could an adorable little one not be a solution.
Will you post a picture next time?
I’ll go one better, I’ll edit and post a pic, introducing Trent William Webb!
I could have never taken care of mom if it hadn’t been for the help my husband has been. Even though he can’t do to much with mom now, in the beginning, he did almost everything I did for her, so his help was priceless during those months. It was hard for him to deal with mom’s refusal of care or food, if it wasn’t coming from me, so for him to figure out a way to “outsmart” her is awesome!
.-= Donna W´s last blog ..On Being Savvy…. =-.
Oh, what a sweetie! I can see what he causes such a distraction.
what a sweetie indeed….how can you not be distracted at what your doing when an adorable child is smiling at you. Im also blessed. My husband was a saint when I cared for my aunt and then again without question opened our home to my mother. On top of all of this he also has a way of putting me first. When the world has BLIZZARDS like I have been through this past week he makes my path to see things clearer. Donna, we have a lot in common…thank goodness we found those two great guys…Beautiful story.
I was very impressed at how your husband drove through the bad weather to come and help you the rest of the way…here comes the calvary!
People have been shocked at how well and how much my husband has done in caring for mom, but that is who he is. He even helped a lady whose house he was working on. She was elderly, in a chair and had an “accident”, he didn’t call her family, it needed to be taken care of immediatlely , so he did…and the question asked him is “how could he do that?” Well, when someone is in need, you just do what needs to be done, no matter what it is. She was immensely grateful to him.
.-= Donna W´s last blog ..On Being Savvy…. =-.