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Donna W on Feb 3rd, 2010 in
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goodbye to sewing
goodbye to tole painting
goodbye to quilting
goodbye to doing laundry
goodbye to driving
goodbye to managing money
goodbye to taking trips
goodbye to shopping
goodbye to baking
goodbye to cleaning house
goodbye to doing dishes
goodbye to sending cards
goodbye to talking on the phone
goodbye to cooking
goodbye to reading and word search puzzles
goodbye to walking alone
goodbye to getting in the tub
goodbye to making it to the bathroom during the night
goodbye to telling time
goodbye to cooking
goodbye to going out
goodbye to remembering some times and places
goodbye to remembering some family and friends
goodbye to bathing
goodbye to using the bathroom, only the potty
goodbye to knowing morning from night
goodbye to eating solids
goodbye to drinking liquids
goodbye to feeding herself
goodbye to using a straw
goodbye to dentures
goodbye to blowing her nose
goodbye to sitting in a chair or on the couch
goodbye to using the potty
goodbye to contolled body eliminations
goodbye to talking
goodbye to my name
goodbye to standing
goodbye to sitting unassisted
goodbye to being up in wheelchair for more then once a day
goodbye to always sleeping at night
goodbye to eating what I determine to be enough for her
goodbye to skin staying strong and intact.
hello mom with the twinkle in your blue eyes……
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I live your exact life… except I’m a widow.. I am not working first time in my life for the past four years, and am living with family. I never get out, same feelings of “Mum” always on the mind. Though she uses a rolly-walker instead of a wheelchair. I do still have to bathe her, and wait on her “hand n foot”. I love her very much, but this has broken my spirit, for I have to watch her spirit broken as well… God help us! Just thought I’d say, there is someone else out there doing the same thing.
Hi MJ, thanks for commenting. I was trying to think of what to write to go with the title “The Long Goodbye” because we don’t just say goodbye to our mom or dad, or whoever the loved one is we are caring for, only once. We say goodbye to each event or activity in their lives that they must give up as they progress through the stages of dementia. So many goodbyes, not just for them, but for us as well. Really even more so for us as we are acutely aware of all they are having to let fall away from their lives.
.-= Donna W´s last blog ..Drool…….. =-.
My baby sister is the main caregiver for our Mom. Twenty years younger, (than me), she has the stamina to face down the doctors and so called nurses and be guardian warrior to make sure our mama is well taken care of and is always comfortable. Thank God for Angel, without her our Mom would already be dead. Say a prayer for my dear Angel, she is so special. If The Lord is willing, maybe our Mom will come home from hospital, at least for a little while. She is in Select Care Hospital in Orlando,Fl.
Hi Sandra, thank you for commenting. You are blessed to have such a younger sister who is willing and caring enough to look after your mama. Both my sisters have passed away, and I have two older brothers who are not involved in mom’s care. I am the youngest of 5 and it was my choice to care for mom, but I know if I had not, my family would have put her in a home and she would have been gone a long time ago. Blessings to you and your sister and of course mama!
.-= Donna W´s last blog ..The Long Goodbye =-.