Good morning all. I thought I’d provide an update on what’s going on in my Caregiving life.
My nephew is still here and my Mom is in hospital. I have to return to work tomorrow after a somewhat restful week off. Work is still shaky as my 36-month role is ending 22 months early. I am NOT going to worry about it though because I know it will be taken care of – I will be taken care of. I just need to follow direction.
In the hospital, my mom seems to have checked out. Aside from hollering out in what seems to be extreme discomfort or fear/anxiety, she says nothing. Even when her eyes are open she’s not really there. She did say my name once yesterday which was an improvement. The nurse reports today she is resisting medicine which also indicates some type of improvement, as strange as that seems.
Part of me is trying to panic, thinking, oh God – this is it – she is giving up and has checked out. A much stronger part of me, however, is keeping me calm and helping to keep me on track. I still have my nephew here and we’ve been hanging out – although not able to do as much now that we are spending several hours of the day at the hospital and some time with grandpa at the nursing home every day.
Hopefully today we can take advantage of the fact that mom’s well-being is secured (as much as it can be in a hospital) and do something fun. I have to return to work tomorrow and while my nephew will still be here, we’ll only have that after work window for the remainder of his visit.
Blessings all.
-Derek
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Sharon
It must be hard to rest and find that God given peace at a time like this, but is seems you have found a measure of peace. I am so happy for that. The anxieties and worries will contiune to crop up, but I am so glad you know the Source of peace.
I hope you have a good time with you nephew. Going out and doing something totally unrelated to caregiving can be a great stress reliever.
Donna Ryan
Derek…Just knowing your Mom is in the hospital being cared for in a small way right now may be a relief as you know you can leave for work tomorrow and be confident she is being cared for until this latest crises calms down. It also is wonderful that you have this time to spend with your nephew and that he is helping you during this difficult time.
I know it is difficut but please try while Mom is being cared for to rest as much as you can as well.
Please keep us updated.
Denise
Hi Derek–As always, I’m so glad to read an update. As Sharon and Donna say, focus on the here and now–for both you and your mom. She’s where she’ll receive the treatment she needs. And, you are where you can be at your best for your mom and your nephew. I hope you all have a restful evening. Please keep us posted.
G-J
Derek, I know this isn’t an easy time for you with your mother in the hospital. Try to remember that they are there to attend to her needs and are taking care of her. I’m glad you have your nephew there with you right now.