A Business Life After a Caregiving Life

This afternoon, Cindy Laverty, a former family caregiver for her former father-in-law, joined us to talk about life after caregiving. You can listen to our show via the player at the bottom of the post.

Cindy’s caregiving journey lasted 5 1/2 years and began at her former father-in-law’s request. Will you help manage my affairs, he asked her, after I have open heart surgery?

She did. And, what was just initially bill paying became everything else, including managing the professional caregivers hired to care for him.

During our discussion, Cindy talked about detachment and the huge lesson she learned about fixing—that caregiving isn’t about fixing. She learned to become a distant observer, which helped her minimize the emotional struggles and appreciate the unspoken moments.

The difficulty in finding good help led Cindy to the idea that she could provide just a service—good help—to family caregivers. She launched her business, The Care Company, in January 2010, six months after the death of her father-in-law. Her best advice to anyone considering starting a company? Get a business mentor.

Cindy’s recently released book, “Caregiving – Eldercare Made Clear & Simple,” is our December Caregiving Book Club pick. Stay tuned for another discussion with Cindy later this year.

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I began working with family caregivers in 1990 and launched CareGiving.com in 1996 to help and support them. Through my blog, I share words of comfort and offer coping strategies and tips. I also write opinion pieces about recent research, community programs and media coverage of caregiving issues. I've written several caregiving books, including "The Caregiving Years, Six Stages to a Meaningful Journey," "Take Comfort, Reflections of Hope for Caregivers" and "After Caregiving Ends, A Guide to Beginning Again." You can purchase my books and schedule a coaching call with me in our store.

2 thoughts on “A Business Life After a Caregiving Life

  1. Sharon

    I enjoyed the broadcast. I am still pondering the word “detachment” in regards to caregiving somewhat, however. Although it is good to try to see things from an objective point of view and to not always try to “fix” the unfixable, it is pretty difficult to emotionally detach oneself from the way the relationship used to be and the expectations we had of that past relationship. This is especially true when we are with our caree 24/7. Also it is sometimes difficult to decide when and how long we need to continue to pursue options to slow down the progress of the diseases of our carees especially when they continue to go downhill.

    I do agree that we need to deal with the fact that our caree is not and can not be the person they once were. I also agree that when we become overwhelmed with our emotions we need to find a way to take a break. The death of my mother-in-law coupled with a couple of difficult caregiving days had taken their toll on me emotionally. I was not doing very well. Today I was able to get away for a few hours, and that was a big help.

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  2. Profile photo of DeniseDenise Post author

    Hi Sharon–I hope you are feeling better! I’m so sorry you weren’t doing well. UGH! It’s hard to manage all the heartache.

    I love your insights about detachment. It’s all so true! Anna Stookey will join me on Tuesday on the talk show so I thought this would be a great topic to discuss.

    Let us know how you’re dong when you have a chance.

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