What Do You Do So You Won’t Worry?
Sep 27 2010 in Denise's Blog by Denise
Last week, Sharon shared her plans to take a break from caregiving and enjoy a Saturday night about with friends. In her comment on our Here We Go! Happy Saturday, Sharon wrote:
My goal is to not be thinking about caregiving at all or very little tonight. Thursday night I was also able to go away for awhile also, and I enjoyed it. I had caregiving in the back of my mind a lot of the time, however. I want to try not be thinking about it at all tonight.
Several years ago, a member of one of our online support groups said it so well: Caregiving is 24/7 simply because it’s hard to take a break from worry.
When I’m struggling not to worry, I calm myself by being quiet. And, then I tell myself: I’m okay. All is okay. I have all that I need. I can handle whatever comes my way.
It’s the quieting that works best because it takes me away from my run-away thoughts and beating heart. I also focus on “okay” rather than “worry”. If I focus on “worry,” even my telling myself “Don’t worry,” then I worry more. When I tell myself, “All is okay,” then I can know it to be true.
How do you manage your worry when you’re away from caregiving? What works for you? Please feel free to share in our comments section, below.
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Laura said on September 27, 2010
I pray, and breath into my heart. Putting my hand on my heart and take deep breaths helps me.
Sharon said on September 27, 2010
I try to remind myself of God’s promise that He will always be with me. I try to remember that it will indeed be okay in the end. I may have to go through difficult circumstances, but it will be okay. Good will come out of the bad.
My Saturday night away from caregiving at a southern Gospel concert also helped me a lot. It was fun and a much needed break. In addition, some of the songs spoke to my heart and revived my spirit. One of the songs was titled “I’m Not Giving Up” It spoke of not giving up in the face of life’s difficulties and clinging to the “nail scarred hand.” That one especially touched my heart.
I bouught some CDS also that night and will continue to play the music. This has helped to relieve the stress, lift my spirits, and better face caregiving difficulties once again
Bette said on September 28, 2010
Many times, on Denise’s Cinch recordings or blog talkradio shows, she reminds us that even during a challenging time (or moment), “it’s okay, it will be okay”. That is extremely comforting for me to think about. To remind myself that it WILL be okay. A plan can be made and support can be put into place. God has been with myself and my family through so many turns in caregiving, job changes, and moves. I know he is not going to walk away from us now. “It’s okay.”