Nov 4 2010 in Karen's Blog by Karen
We have had quite a number of guest speakers in our caregiving class. One such was an architect who specializes in universal design. One of her concepts is that our homes should have designated spaces. There are “dangerous spaces”; there should be at least one “safe space” and at least one “respite space”.
What are dangerous and safe spaces? A “dangerous space” is any area or room which the caree cannot be safely left alone in. This might not apply to every one’s situation, but it is something to think about and to check out.
As I have learned, I need to “Mom-proof” things. A safe space would be a room or area where your loved one can be safe without being watched or having someone with them. And then there is the “respite space”. This is a space where the caregiver can go to be alone, to be private, to take a nap, to read, or whatever for a short break.
So I have made my bedroom my respite space. Previously, I have always left my door open except when I am dressing. Now I have started trying to take some respite time for myself.
When I get too tired or stressed out, I can tell Mom and Wes that I need to rest for a bit. I am trying to get them used to the idea that sometimes I need some alone time. Sometimes I have more of a problem with this than they do. If I can go in my room and just be quiet for 15 minutes or half an hour, it helps me tremendously.