Plum/orange hat-consignment store; vintage 1940′s plum wool jacket with fur trim, vintage orange leather gloves, vintage jewelry-estate sales; long black rayon skirt-Camille cast off.
Photo by Nelson
Nelson’s oncology appointment today was a consultation to determine follow-up details. His blood work values continue to indicate cancer growth and liver dysfunction. The chemo infusion two weeks ago did nothing but cause distress and suffering, so Nelson’s decision to discontinue treatment was reinforced. When asked about his symptoms, he described ‘itching’ as a frequent occurrence. The oncologist asked what seemed to help this side effect of liver impairment and Nelson wryly replied with ‘scratching.’ Always the comedian, his comment cut through the tension and intensity of the moment as though he had just punctured a balloon. I found myself laughing through my tears and on the way home I attempted to come up with a word to describe my reaction. None came to mind, so The SC came up with ‘laugh-tears.’ Making up new words won’t change our circumstance, but with Nelson by my side it could become a frequently used term as our journey continues.
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Bette
Hi Judith,
I love how Nelson added a bit of humor!(:
I so admire the strength you share together.
Thinking of you both.
Denise
Hi Judith–There’s nothing like a shared laugh between lovers.
Can you tell us a little bit about when Nelson took the photo? We usually see you on your out but this one looks like it was at the hospital. I’d love to know a little behind-the-photo story.
The Style Crone
Thank you for your question Denise. The photo was taken in the oncology clinic. The room we were in was a little different.
Jo
“laugh-tears” I love it. I’ve laughed a few buckets myself.
As always, appreciate your smile especially know something of the circumstances you find yourself in. Thank-you!
Kathy
Laugh-Tears.
Perfect words and I understand what they are completely
Prayers for you and Nelson that you experience an extra measure of peace for your mind and hearts.