Hi, Robert!

“Hi, Trish. How are you doing?”

Great. How are you?

“I’m doing very well. And you?”

Our conversations always start the same but tonight I couldn’t go in circles with him—I wanted to get to the good stuff:  Prom!

Robert, you had Prom today.  How was it?

“It was really good.” Yay! He’s added a “very” and a “really” to his normal responses. He must have had a blast.

Did you wear the clothes I set out for you?

“Yes I did—No, actually I didn’t wear anything!  Just joking!” Oh, Robert. You and your humor. . .

Did you have fun at the Prom?

“It was pretty nice.”

Did you dance?

“I danced a little.” My heart skipped a beat. I picture him on the dance floor moving his walker back and forth.  I need details . . .

Did you dance with someone?

“Yes.”  Oh, I see.  I have to drag it out of him.

Was it a girl?

“Yes. Her name was Kathy and she was older than me.” Ah, an older woman.

“She asked if I would dance with her.” Ooooh.  I guess it pays to be the new kid.

Then what happened?

“We voted for . . . to give them a . . . “ I helped him a little since I knew where he was going with this.

Did you vote for a King and Queen?

“Yes.  And they got a crown.”  What a special day for all of them! I know how much work went into planning this event. The memories created today are so wonderful for Robert and his new friends.

“I voted for Kathy and she won.” Hey, I didn’t realize he was dancing with the Prom Queen. The new guy isn’t doing so bad for himself.

Who was the King?

“Not Richard.” I’m a bit puzzled.

“I voted for Richard.  Steve won.” Ah, I see. Well, we can’t always pick the winners.

Anything else happen?

“I had a special lunch.” Robert begins to giggle.

“And then I ate my regular lunch.” His giggling doesn’t stop and I start to giggle with him.

Once our giggles die down, I tell him how happy I am he had such a good time and that he is making so many new friends.

I had one more question to ask him: How many Erics are there?


Mystery solved!

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About Trish

I am Robert’s older sister and a freelance writer and am also a full-time Legal Administrator for a wonderful law firm (no, that is not an oxymoron). I am the caregiver for my youngest brother, Robert, who has suffered from uncontrolled epilepsy his entire life. In his late-40s now, he lives with me and my husband. I have somehow managed to navigate the maze of social services and government programs available to help Robert and continue to be amazed at the amount of time and persistence that is needed to do so. Robert finds happiness in simple pleasures like doing word search puzzles and watching his favorite shows (Family Feud and Jeopardy, of course!)

5 thoughts on “Prom!

  1. Avatar of DeniseDenise

    Yay!! I’m so glad he had fun (and had two lunches). I so admire Robert’s ability to jump in and try—the new home, the day program, prom. He has an ability to enjoy life’s moments without worry (or so it seems) that is a good lesson for me. Thanks so much for the update!

  2. Bette

    Hi Trish,
    I’m so happy that Robert had such a good time and is making so many new friends…and dancing!

    You orchestrated this all…Robert is so fortunate.

    I hope you have a wonderful week-end.

  3. Avatar of KathyKathy


    I’ve been anxiously awaiting to hear about Prom!
    (Picture teenage girl with rollers and house shoes waiting for her friends to come for sleepover and a gab fest with details)
    Even man details ugh! They give nothing without dragging it out! ;-)

    Sounds like he had a great time!!
    YAY for picking the winning Queen! But in my opinion, Robert should have been King :)
    Thank you for sharing with us


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