Next Time

We can be so generous in the chances we give to others. We are quick to help a friend feel better who at times can’t be as supportive as we’d like, to extend a good wish to someone who took a bad day out on us, to accept a hug from someone who may have hurt us.

The ability to accept another’s imperfections speaks so well of us. We can give another another chance.

Why, then, do we hesitate to be as accepting of our own imperfections? Why do we withhold another chance from ourselves?

It seems we can be so stingy in the chances we give to ourselves. And, in our cheapness with ourselves, we choose to reprimand and rehash (I should have done better, I should have known better) rather than making peace.

When you find yourself speaking harshly with yourself after a mistake or mishap, take a moment to stop. Then, choose to be generous with yourself: Give yourself a next time.

Next time, you can be different. You can manage differently, speak kindly, act graciously.

Be generous. Give yourself a next time.


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About Denise Brown

I began working with family caregivers in 1990 and launched in 1996 to help and support them. Through my blog, I share words of comfort and offer coping strategies and tips. I also write opinion pieces about recent research, community programs and media coverage of caregiving issues. I've written several caregiving books, including "The Caregiving Years, Six Stages to a Meaningful Journey," "Take Comfort, Reflections of Hope for Caregivers" and "After Caregiving Ends, A Guide to Beginning Again." You can purchase my books and schedule a coaching call with me in our store.

2 thoughts on “Next Time

  1. Trish

    Thanks, Denise. Wow — this is so true! Thank you for the great reminder to treat ourselves as well as we treat others.


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