I haven’t posted recently since I have been trying to get my life back in order after working crazy hours 6 days a week. It’s been crazy running back and forth between work and Mom and these past few weeks I just needed a break from everything and everyone. I haven’t felt like calling or talking to anyone at all. Sometimes I just need time to myself to get everything in order.
Mom has been doing much better. She is still in the rehab and between now and Monday she will be released from rehab. They first wanted to send my mom home but there will be no one here to care for her. The main issue is the week I go away. With all my effort to get her to stay in the rehab/nursing home until my vacation is over, there is an issue with Medicaid. Mom already has Medicaid but not “nursing home” Medicaid. The financing department applied for her back in March but we still have not received any word as of yet. The rehab said it can take between 2-5 months and if they deny her, the payment will be out of pocket at close to $450/day which is unbelievable. The rehab seems to think she will be approved but isn’t definite about it.
If I take her home now, there is no one to care for her the week I am not here and to make matters worse, my brother decided to book a trip that same week even though he knew I wouldn’t be around. I hate feeling guilty about going away but I booked this trip last September and I really need it so bad.
I don’t want a stranger in my house taking care of my mom while I am away and I can’t afford to keep her in the nursing home if Medicaid doesn’t come through.
Sorry, I just really needed to vent. Haven’t done it in awhile.
Meryl:
I’m so sorry for your frustration. I can total relate to where you are coming from. It doesn’t seem right that your brother booked a trip at the same time as he knew you were gone.
I hope that everything works out so you can get some much needed rest and relaxation.
Hugs:o)
Jane ~ mom to Nicole, 16 y.o. VSD, PH, Eisenmengers, EDS
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Hi Meryl,
So sorry to hear of the continued challenges. I hope that you get the news soon, and that it is positive news about Medicaid.
I am so glad to hear that you will be going on a well deserved and needed, trip soon.(:
If you do have to have an aide(s) come in, is there a way you can get aquainted with them before you go away…?
We’ve recently had to add aides here for my mother, so I definitely understand the hesitation. – I’ve been very stubborn about this at times…It’s been a loss for me though to wait so long in scheduling.(:
Thinking of you Meryl and praying that all moves into place for a nice time away.
Meryl,
I’m so glad to hear that your mother is doing better…but I’m so sorry to hear about the hassle & worry with medicaid. I certainly hope that you get good news on that soon.
I, too, understand about having a stranger in your house. Bette’s comment about trying to get acquainted with them first is a good idea.
OY! Everything adds stress, doesn’t it!
Thinking of you.
Hi–UGH! It’s so discouraging when it’s the dratted paperwork that gets in the way. How frustrating! Will you keep us posted? I hope it helped to vent.
Hi, Meryl, Frustration on all fronts – yuk! It’s difficult to have so much “unknown.” I hope Medicaid comes through for you. Go on the vacation and enjoy it without guilt as much as you can. Happy to hear your mom is doing better — that’s some good news in the midst of all this frustration. Take care.
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Meryl, I hope you can catch a break from the frustrations very quickly!
I know you were so looking forward to your vacation. I was looking forward to it for you
Hi Meryl,
We have a new aide for tonight…I thought of you. It’s okay that you may have to meet several before you feel good about the situation.
You know what’s best for your mom and for you.
Hope you are able to receive the help you need.
Hang in there, you’re doing a good job and you continue to be there for your mom.
First I wanted to say thank you to all of you for your support. It is very much appreciated.
My cruise is in 2 weeks so there really is no time to start interviewing the aides and there is also moms dialysis that would need to be figured out as well. I have no one to cover for me at work either so my time is very limited.
I have decided to have her stay there and let everything fall where it’s supposed to. Mom will be taken care of and I will cross that bridge when I return from my trip.
This vacation is very badly needed and as much as I will probably feel guilty about going and leaving her, I also know I have to take care of myself as well.