“I’m Giving Up, Honey”
Jul 11 2011 in The Unit Known As Shandi's blog by The Unit Known as Shandi
After her amazing day yesterday, Mom woke up at 3:30 AM with extreme anxiety and pain. I changed her, and gave her medicine for both. She looked me in the eyes and told me that she was giving up. I told her that it was okay, that I would be here. So far today, she hasn’t been eating or drinking, and seems very “out of it.”
Today is my dad’s birthday (he “moved on” 25 years ago now).
I will always treasure yesterday.
I will continue to try and keep her comfortable, and offer food and drink, let her know she’s loved.
(One side of Dad’s face in this photo had been affected by a WWII explosion 6 weeks after they were married. It was much less noticeable later in life, but I love this picture. Just one more reminder of how strong they both are!)
Kay Balsley said on July 11, 2011
I read this and I wanted to cry It must be a sad day for you May God give you strength today no matter what may come your way.
The Unit Known as Shandi said on July 11, 2011
I’m sorry, Kay. I’ve wondered if I should be sharing this much with all of you, if it’s making your role as caregivers more difficult. But caregiving.com has become part of my extended family, and I’ve needed the support and to be able to share with those that understand just how close you grow to those you provide care for!
Trish said on July 11, 2011
Shandi, Even though this is sad for us, it is a journey I am honored you are sharing with us and am sure others feel the same way (obviously, I can’t speak for everyone but we’re all here for you). I love that you’re sharing the entire journey with us. I think we’re here for each other through all of caregiving — good, bad, sad, everything. Love the pictures you are sharing. Wishing you peace today.
Denise said on July 11, 2011
Oh, I love this picture, too!! It’s been such a treat to these–thank you so much for sharing them.
You’re doing awesome! We’re all thinking of you…
G-J said on July 11, 2011
Remember the credit card commercial where at the end, something was “priceless”? The gift you are giving your mother is truly, “priceless”. This is hard, this is heartbreaking, but it really is the ultimate gift that you can give. Thank you for sharing your journey, and this beautiful picture, with us.
kristin said on July 11, 2011
Shandi, what a wonderful, loving good-bye you have given your mother. Thank you for sharing your ups and downs and also for the pictures. I am thinking of you and hope your mother’s transition is smooth. You are both very courageous women.
Bette said on July 11, 2011
Hi Shandi,
I love this picture. They certainly passed on their strength. Your dad would be very proud of you.
Thinking of you and praying for a few more hours of sleep for you tonight.
Sharon said on July 11, 2011
What a beautiful picture! I am so happy you are having these moments with your Mom sad as they are. They are a precious gift to you and your family.
The Unit Known as Shandi said on July 11, 2011
Things turned around again this afternoon for the better. I just don’t know what to say at this point, except that we’ll just keep taking it one day at a time (or one hour). Her vital signs are looking better, and the diahrrea slowed down a bit today.
Jennifer said on July 12, 2011
Shandi, hello!
The photo is amazing, and I thank you for sharing it (and all the info and photos you post).
I know what you mean about extended family, and am grateful you post it all – because it’s all real, it’s all there for all of us, and we’re all doing the job(s) we’re doing because we know it’s the right thing that we know we have to do. If we didn’t feel this way we wouldn’t be here!
I’m picturing your dad meeting your mother with roses when she’s ready. It only happens when it’s supposed to happen!
Blessings (and Beethoven),
J
Jane said on July 12, 2011
Shandi:
I can’t say anything more than what the others have said. Your mom is lucky to have you.
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Hugs:o)
Jane~mom to Nicole, VSD, PAH, Eisenmengers, EDS
Troubles are often the tools by which God fashions us for better things.
Kathy said on July 13, 2011
Shandi,
Thank you for sharing your mom with us.
Yes the situation is sad but we are all family here and we are here for you through this time.
Praying {{{hugs}}}