This morning on Your Caregiving Journey, Holly, who cares for her husband, joined me to share her story of accepting her truth in her life. You can listen to our show via the player at the bottom of the post.
Holly shared a time in her life when she felt her inner light had been turned off. She was already caring for Dave, diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia in 2006, when she learned they had lost all their investments, investments which could not be recovered. She felt alone, overwhelmed and without any solutions.
For the next two months, Holly says she lost the sweetness of life. Until one day she stood in the kitchen cleaning vegetables. She was angry about cooking; Dave had been the cook in the family. The anger about cooking became anger about her life.
And, then it hit her: She had a choice.
That realization led her to stop bargaining with her life and to accepting her life’s reality. She’s in her 50s. She cares for her husband. She has financial challenges. And, it’s okay.
Holly now sees life as fair. When she faces a change or a challenge or a difficult situation, she asks herself, “Today, what can I do about it?” and “How can it get better?”
Holly recognizes that the process of moving into peace can be a long one. It also can be one that brings great comfort. A few weeks ago, when driving in her car, Holly realized that she now longer searches for better. She’s released the judgment of what she has to find the blessings in what she’s given.
After you’ve had a chance to listen to our show, I’d love to know what hit home for you. How do you find peace in a life that you may have once judged as unfair? Please share in our comments section, below.
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