Tell Us: What Part of You Got Lost?
Sep 13 2011 in Denise's Blog, Tell Us by Denise
In last week’s poll, What’s Caregiving’s Worst Side Effect?, your top answer was, “I feel like I lost myself.”
I’d love for you to tell us more. For instance, do you feel like you look in the mirror and wonder what happened? Do you feel like you’ve lost your ability to enjoy what you used to? Or, do you look around and think: How did I get to where I don’t belong?
Perhaps others have told you that they don’t recognize you. And, perhaps, you don’t recognize your old friends because who they are seemed to be who you were a lifetime ago.
Share your thoughts about losing yourself in our comments section, below. And, if you found what you lost, please share that, too.
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Sandra Kay said on September 13, 2011
I feel like I’ve lost my social life. Frends tend to “stay away” and family seems to “be afraid” of what to say or do.
Jane said on September 13, 2011
Wow… this is really tough. I do agree with Sandra that my social life.. I have lost a lot of friends and people “stay away” and “are afraid”.
I believe I have lost my hopes and dreams because my hopes and dreams now are to find a cure for my daughter’s illness like I can do this but I must try.
I will think more on this also and see if I come up with anything else.
Hugs:o)
Jane ~ mom to Nicole, 16 yo, VSD, PAH, Eisenmengers, EDS/BHJS
Bette said on September 17, 2011
I feel like I lost the part of me that I was about–It is returning however (:
Without that part/parts, I focussed on the sad, and lost sight of the positives in the day–those that were there and those that were coming.
Jo said on September 17, 2011
I lost my role as the “baby” of the family although at times Mom still uses the term on me because she thinks I’m her “baby brother.”
Instead, when my parents assumed the role of “two yr olds” and I took over financial, legal, and physical care for them, essentially becoming their parents, I ceased to be the baby of the family. No one besides my Mom teases me about it anymore.
Funny thing is I always disliked being called the “baby” and wished everyone would let me grow up. Now with everything on my shoulders I can appreciate the privilege and advantage of it. I miss being the baby.