My brother died this morning.
I informed my sister. I told my son and daughter. I let friends who had been praying and supporting us know. I didn’t have the heart to tell Mom and Dad.
Interestingly Dad, without prompting, asked me about his oldest son. I stammered an indirect answer.
I’ve been down that road of telling them about the death of a loved one. They can’t process it. It’ll only turn into an endless loop of “he’s dead…he’s dead…he’s dead” and each time they hear it, it is for the first time and it rips them apart each and every hearing.
I’ll probably come up with a more composed one later on.
Today, I’m just missing someone I looked up to as a hero.
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Jane
Hi Jo:
I am so sorry for your lose. I don’t really know what else to say. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Hugs:o)
Jane ~ mom to Nicole, 17 yo, VSD, PAH, Eisenmengers, BHJS
Denise
Ohhhhhhh, Jo, I am so sorry. You grieve for yourself and you also grieve for your parents. It’s got to be a heartache that feels too big. Please keep us posted on the services and how you’re doing. We are thinking of you.
Trish
Jo, I’m so, so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family. When you are in a better place, I’d love to hear more about your brother. He sounds like a remarkable man. Take care.
G-J
Jo, I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your brother. My heart goes out to you and your family.
Sharon
Jo, I am so sorry for your lost. Please keep us informed how you and your family are doing. You are in my prayers.
Bette
Jo I’m so sorry.
Your brother sounds like he was a very special person – your hero.
Hang on to the memories and your hero will always be in your heart.
Thinking and praying for you and your family
Karen
Jo,
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your brother. My heart goes out to you.
Kathy
ohhh Jo,
My heart aches for your loss.
Prayers for your hurting heart and for peace for your body and mind as you go through these difficult days.
You and your family are in my thoughts.