As you know if you’ve read Denise’s latest blog entry, she and Bette visited me last Sunday. Now, I don’t get a lot of visitors; in fact, I have not had one since I moved in here in March 2010, except for Mary’s daughters on their brief weekly visits. So I was very excited to have these two, especially, pay me a visit.
What I had anticipated as a warm and fun visit turned into something very profound for me. First, there was the fact that two people who had never met me (except through my blog) drove more than 10 hours to the boonies to see me. Second, Bette showed up with a beautiful basket just stuffed full of food for a Thanksgiving dinner (and beyond), including the gravy and the napkins. Also included was Denise’s Book, “Take Comfort,” of which I am reading one page a day. Third, they understood. Mary is not in a difficult phase right now—pretty tough morning and evening when she’s most confused, but manageable so far.
But Mary is all I have here, day in and day out. The isolation from functional, thinking people is deadening. The daughters vaguely understand this intellectually; Bette let me know she understands. Really, really knows what it would be like to hear the same words all day long, day in and day out, to say the same words.
As we spoke with one another, there was real listening. Denise coached me on some forgiveness stuff, and made a real difference in how I was looking at the issue, so now I know what you folks mean when you talk about how enlightening and helpful your coaching sessions with her are.
The support that I received from both women has buoyed me and had a profound effect on me. I am truly blessed.