Happy New Year

Hi everybody,

I’ve been stopping in at caregiving.com because I think of all of you often, and want to know what is going on in your lives, but I haven’t posted in quite a while.

I want to think all of you again for being such an amazing support system this past year. We got through the holiday season, although it was very strange and empty without Mom being with us. On the 29th of December, we had six out of nine of her great-grandchildren here (we are still living in Mom’s house) to spend the night. At one point, I walked into the room and they were talking about how much they miss her and loved her. That’s the legacy she left, and reaffirmation of meeting my goal to keep her surrounded by her family until the end of her days here. It was a good feeling.

Many of you have asked about our house situation. The house was moved, away from the landslide, two weeks ago. It is such a strange feeling to be living at Mom’s, looking out her kitchen windows, and seeing our house in a completely different place! There is still much work to be done before we can get back in. Next weekend, we’ll start work on the foundation. After electrical work, inspections, and the concrete for the foundation, the house movers will come back out and set our house down on its new foundation. Backfill will follow, then a new septic field and the power reconnected. Still a long haul, but the house is safe, and the end is in sight.

The same day the house moved, I started a new job. It’s only a temporary position (unless I get hired as the permanent person), but I’m enjoying it and it’s full-time. I’m working as an administrative assistant for the college I graduated from.  It has been good to get out of the house and back into the “real world”, but strange at the same time. I don’t think I really realized how isolated I had been being home all the time. I think that was one of the hardest parts of caregiving for me, and I know from reading your posts that many of you feel the same way.

My husband’s mother has agreed to assisted living, and is on the waiting list now. That will help tremendously. She calls many times each day, and is very unhappy. We are hoping that being in a more social setting without the stress of keeping up a house will help her be more content. I know my husband is looking forward to that. She will only be about 10 minutes away from us (instead of 30 minutes, which is where she is now).

I hope all of you have a great 2012. I do think of you often.


5 thoughts on “Happy New Year

  1. kristin

    How good to hear from you, and to learn that things are working out in many ways for you. I love that you overheard the kids talking about your mother. It is a testament to how generously she gave her love that they are able to express their own for her. This is a family in which loves flows freely. I hope you all have a wonderful 2012!

  2. Trish

    Shandi, It is so great to hear from you! It seems your mom’s legacy is living through you with your love of family and your ability to create an open & loving environment for kids & grandkids. Happy to hear there’s an end in sight for your house and that you are enjoying your work. Wishing you a 2012 full of laughter, smiles & joy.

  3. Avatar of DeniseDenise

    Hi TUKAS–It sounds like you are doing well. I’m so glad you found a job that you enjoy and will keep my fingers crossed that it becomes permanent. It’s all about small steps, isn’t it? You’re taking all the right steps. Thanks for the update. A very Happy New Year to you and yours!

  4. Avatar of KathyKathy


    So happy you checked in.
    I think of you often and pray for you daily.
    Sounds like things are moving along slowly but steadily.
    Congratulations on your new job.
    I hope you find it fills the void that the end of caregiving brings.



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