Yesterday, during our Super Sunday Open House, I offered a free webinar, Three Steps to Feeling Better. (Miss the webinar? No worries! The archive is available and ready for you here.) I shared three steps which can take you from feeling bad to feeling better.
So, I’d love to know: Which step will you take to feel better? Please share in our comments section, below.
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Bette
Thank you so much Denise for this webinar. It’s wonderful to see that there are steps to feeling better.
I would like to try to work on step #1: Do What You Dread. It use to be hard to leave my mother because of guilt, now with the declines that dementia is bringing, it’s hard to leave because it is so sad. I went to Bunko two weeks ago at our church. I had a nice time, but initially I felt a little “homesick” for caregiving…
My neighbor asked me on Thursday if I would like to walk once a week with her. I want to call her this week to schedule a day and time that will work for us both. It’s not dreading the walk or the visit – it’s dreading the scheduling and getting use to being away from the new challenges.
Thank you for always giving your understanding in caregiving.
ejourneys
Thanks so much, Denise!
I’m also working on step #1, by going more public with my caregiving situation. It makes me feel uneasy, not because of what I write about myself, but because of what I write about my partner — as in, “What right have I to do this?” Because our perceptions differ.
Over the past couple of years I’ve been “coming out” to friends in this regard. I feel as though I tread the fine line of seeking support for myself versus violating my partner’s privacy — or respecting her sovereignty as a human being versus silencing myself.
I feel that the medical records we’ve obtained over the past few years have empowered me to come forward, even as my partner tells me she will write rebuttals to the doctors.
Bette, I hope you can have as smooth a transition as possible to taking those walks and getting some fresh air respite. My own walks help me live in the moment.
Jane
Hi Denise:
As usual the webinar was fantastic. I had several things come to mind while I was listening.
I had planned to be there live but had to run an errand at the last minute so this is the answer to your question. What weighs on my heart today and mostly every day is that Nicole will not get the treatment and the doctors that she needs and she will die.
I think I have stuff I dread but it is different everyday as I always have so much to do and I have to try to put them into some type of priority. I think at this moment the thing I’m dreading most and it isn’t that scary is calling Kid Care (the state medicaid system for children who have no insurance). Nicole had this for Nov./Dec and I paid for January before I knew Medicaid with SSI was going to kick in and I haven’t received the reimbursement.
I think what really is the bigger dread for me is acceptance of Nicole’s illness because I know she could die and while her symptoms may be able to get a little better she won’t get better or cured at this point. I don’t know if I dread this or just don’t know how to do accept it and be okay with it.
I like the give yourself quiet part and I will try to start working on this everyday whatever it may be which will probably be writing or reading or praying.
I have a very hard time also with not taking it personal. There are many, many, many days that I feel that I am being punished for the sins of my past with Nicole being so sick. If I hadn’t done this, this and this she wouldn’t have been born with a heart defect which I could accept but that it wasn’t diagnosed and because of this her life will be so much different and not normal.
I absolutely love how you said get quite and listen for the answer especially with my issues with Nicole turning 18 and I still know what the answer is even if I get criticized and judged for it. Unfortunately, I haven’t found the solution within me yet for Nicole to get different/better treatment when we don’t have access through Medicaid to any other doctor but the one we are currently seeing. I’m hoping this will work out.
Now that I wrote my own book and this counts toward quiet time
right? except for the noise of the oxygen concentrator.
Hugs:o)
Jane~ mom to Nicole, 17 yo, VSD, PAH, Eisenmengers (dx 1/22/10)
BHJS (dx 2/4/11)
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