Over the weekend, Tom posted an update, “Feeling Like a Hypocrite.” He ended his post with this line:
“The love that keeps us together feels like an anchor around my neck today.”
The Unit Known as Shandi, who blogged here about caring for her mom until her mother’s death last July, shared this reply:
That statement may be one of the best descriptions of the reality of caregiving. What a profound statement. It’s so much easier to think of statements like, “The love that keeps us together gives me wings to fly”, or other mushy Hallmark moments. Not that these aren’t true at some point in a love story…they are, and they are valid. But loving someone is easy when it’s the Hallmark moments. You’ll never see your statement in a Hallmark card…
So… let’s create reflections about caregiving that will never make a Hallmark card. Reflections like:
I dreamed of your diarrhea last night.
I’d love to throw the wheelchair out the back door.
At times, I’m not sure which of us has dementia.
My difficult days have given me a butt bigger than I could ever imagine.
Feel free to share your reflection in our comments section, below. We’ll award a winner a copy of Good Morning! Sunny Reflections to Start Your Day. We’ll choose a winner on Thursday so be sure to share before then.