Yesterday, Holly, who cares for her husband, Dave, joined me for Table Talk on Your Caregiving Journey. We talked about how to feel better on a bad day. You can listen to our show via the player below.
I asked Holly to tell us about her bad days. In turns out, her recent bad days hinge on the arrival of a bear. On Friday morning, a bear greeted her outside her door. This is the not first arrival of a bear on her property; she had a bear visiting throughout last summer.
The arrival of a bear means Holly’s day changes. She must bring in the bird feeders, she must be careful of her use of the outdoors. This bear comes between Holly and what she loves–taking care of and enjoying nature.
As we continued our conversation, we talked about the other bear in Holly’s life: Dave’s resistance to bathing. When he resists, she feels out-of-control, without options.
The bear appearance and the bathing resistance put Holly face-to-face with what can be so hard to live with–our lack of control over the events and situations that take place during a day, especially in a day that’s all about caregiving.
When Holly saw the bear yesterday, she sat and cried. When she saw the bear for three months last year, she sat and cried for three months. Perhaps the bear allowed you to cry, I suggested. He did, Holly said, I had not done that (cried).
We’ll continue the conversation with Holly about her bears next month. (Holly joins me for Table Talk on the third Saturday of every month.) I’d love to know about your bears. What (or who) appears during your day which challenges you to feel good about your day? Please share in our comments section, below.
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