Old Billy spoke about a time during caregiving for his dad when he felt he was reaching his breaking point. I asked him what he did to feel better. He shared these four great tips:
1. He kept to a four-hour schedule, which meant that every four hours he closed his eyes. If he slept, great. If he just cleared his mind, that worked too. The break every four hours ensured he got rest.
2. He gave up the thought that he needed to give immediate responses to health care professionals. When a treatment was suggested or a decision needed, Old Billy would tell the health care professionals, “Thank you for giving me something to think about.” Giving himself time to consider options meant he made decisions based on logic, rather than emotion.
3. He made sure he made time to read.
4. He let go of expectations of what would come next and focused on the moment.
Old Billy is a great reader and will join G-J and I on Tuesday morning at 11 a.m. ET on Your Caregiving Journey to discuss our May book club pick, Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail by Cheryl Strayed. Be sure to join us in the chat room and share your feedback on the book. And, when you log in, bring your best guess as to the location of Old Billy’s mom in the Where’s Grandma contest for a chance to win.
Thanks so much, Old Billy, for sharing with us this morning. It was great to start the day with you.
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