May 3 2012 in Carla's Blog by carlaschuchman
Good May Morning everyone,
I just wanted to give a little update since my last post.
Mema, my mother-in-law, has been enrolled into an adult day care. She is loving it.
I happened across a flyer about it when I had Smokey at an appointment. I immediately called them and we went over there after the appointment. As a facility almost solely financed from Medicare or Medicaid, I was not impressed to say the least, but the people in charge were amazing. Loving and kind, very knowledgeable and so understanding and willing to help. She visited the next day and we got the paperwork done and she goes five days a week. I also received the paperwork for the $500 benefit toward her care needs.
Everyone’s suggestions have been wonderful. I am not through checking everything out, as I worked a lot of hours these past several weeks, but I go back to my last post when I can and research each suggestion.
Smokey is hanging in there. He has had lung CT scan, sonogram on his arteries, added medications for his lungs and now he must get his back checked out. That is what he is complaining about most, and his lungs of course. He has tried very hard to be active but he isn’t able to much.
I have felt like I have been grieving over him like we did our son. He isn’t the same man, he can’t do anything he use to do. He stays in bed a lot. From 230, massive big man whose bear hugs were most amazing, to 148 on a good day, hunched over and hanging on. I am always, always so very happy around him. Loving each day the Lord has blessed us to be together. More appointments next week. I will keep you updated.
Lastly I just want to vent if I may. Here in town we have a brother, and daughter, a few friends who don’t have to work and my help usually comes from someone not related to us who arranges her schedule to help me, including being late to her job (she is the manager).
I really got upset yesterday. I asked my family and my friend, family had a day off but said it was their only day off. Friend just didn’t give anything. I have a day off! Usually it is spent caring for Smokey and Mema, running errands, and having my grandchild (who I adore). Rarely do I get time when I don’t have something to do, that usually only comes when the exhaustion has set in and I literally fall out for a while.
Then when I wake I get a guilty feeling for a bit that I didn’t get my work done! It really makes me feel like I must get my stuff in order because when I get older, and hopefully not need care, but if I do, I better have a plan in place because there will be no one to help. I just don’t understand, but God does and I know He has a plan.
And now, I have decided to go back to school! Yes, lets add more to my to do list. LOL. I am excited about it–online to work toward my Art Therapist Degree.
So, that is my update. If there is anything I might be able to help or encourage someone else, please comment and let me know. And thanks so much for this platform at caregiving.com. I have back-up! God Bless You.