Something Is Always Changing
May 29 2012 in Blogs, Carla's Blog by carlaschuchman
Hello Everyone,
It is weeks between times I come and read, listen, comment, and post. Something is always changing.
Mema, my mother-in-law, is off for her month away with my dear friends who have adopted her and take her twice a year. Gives us a little break and she really, really enjoys it.
Work has been crazy and I have had to walk away from a good paying project because my brother-in-law is having issues. Nothing new, but I just can’t take his selfish and care-less attitude toward my desire and responsibility to his mom, who he won’t help with, and his brother, who he hasn’t asked about or seen in a while, and he is at my house everyday. He lives on a boat in the river down the road and parks his stuff on my property. He won’t leave. That’s about to change. More drama I don’t need.
The biggest thing is Smokey’s illnesses. We have been to the doctors two and three times a week for tests, talks, blood work. The latest was the CT Scan that confirms another fracture in the thoracic area that was broken before and the possibility of cancer. Yes, I said that dreaded C word. Nothing is confirmed on that and we must talk with surgeons, more doctors, and have more tests done hopefully this week.
He is eating but he has lost more weight. He weighs the same as when he first came home from the hospital. He is having other things going on, like, out of nowhere, he says something and then in a bit of confusion he looks at me and asks why did I say that? I asked him if he was hearing someone talk to him; he said yes, sometimes. Then there is the jerks when he sleeps, some wake him up startled. And then the bloating that has just started after he eats or drinks and he feels over full and sick.
He is scared, and I am scared. His doctors don’t see the need to admit him yet, but I just don’t know. I feel so helpless. I have read so many reports online about everything I possibly can, just to feel like I know a little more than I do, but…I really have no clue.
Thinking about buying that nutribullet and trying more superfoods.
Believe it or not I am not really that stressed out, and I know I should not fear, especially since I do believe it is all in God’s hands. But I can’t help this nasty feeling being scared he is really, really sick and this is it.
Please keep him in your prayers.
Carla
Denise said on May 29, 2012
Hi Carla–It’s good to hear from you! We understand about the business of your day.
I am so sorry about Smokey. It is very, very scary.
How do you and Smokey feel about his doctors? Do you feel comfortable with them?
I’m anxious to hear how you’ll evict your brother-in-law. Do you need our help?
ejourneys said on May 30, 2012
Carla, good for you for putting your foot down with your brother-in-law. And bless your friends for caring for your mother-in-law.
I am sorry to hear about Smokey and am keeping him in my prayers — you and Mema, too. I hope those tests can be done soon.
carlaschuchman said on May 30, 2012
Thanks guys, I so appreciate this place of support!
Denise, it’s not a eviction so to speak, he doesn’t “stay” in my home. Not now, he was for a time when I had both Smokey and Mema going back and forth in hospital stays and needed someone full-time at home. He wasn’t too much help as he didn’t do anything I asked the way I asked and I ended up doing most myself through online sources and phone calls. He was just present. I had to get angry to get him to leave “staying” in my home, one, he would not stop smoking inside my home, two, I had to tell him I didn’t need his full-time help any more. Not he just parks his large work trailer and small john-boat on my property in the front yard. I have locked up out of all buildings, took his keys and told him many time he could not use or work here any more. You would think he would just go, but it his personality to think everyone owes him something and nothing he does is wrong or his fault. He is an awful person. I know I know, that’s only my side, and there is always the other side. I wouldn’t want anyone to experience him and I wouldn’t introduce him to anyone. I have even had past clients that will hire me, but make the stipulation that I cannot have him on the project. I have already contacted my lawyer, a good man, and have got all the information to proceed should I have to. He has nothing to stand on, no lease, no agreement, just an okay you can park here until you find somewhere else. *sigh*
As far as Smokey’s doctors, I love most of them. He main doctor is a dear friend of mine as well and I am able to text, email and call him just about anytime. There are other past doctors in which we will not be returning. We believe that some of what they did may be part of the reason he is like he is now. Perhaps we could have found better. But more than that was this one’s bedside manner. He actually said to me when I had both Mema and Smokey at there appts at the same time, “Looks like one should die so you can get a break!” Can you believe he would have said that?! We haven’t been back.
It is scary! I call today for the appointments for the next tests. I will keep ya’ll informed. And yes, any advice is always appreciated. Much of the advice I received from a previous post was awesome and I have had success! Applying and receiving funds and help. Thanks so much!
Carla