This morning, Holly, who cares for her husband, joined me for our monthly chat. You can listen to our show via the player below.
You’ll remember that, when Holly joined us last month, a bear had paid a visit to her back porch. Last summer, visits from the bear brought Holly to her knees (and to tears). To Holly, bear become a barrier between Holly and what she loves–taking care of and enjoying nature. With a bear on the property, Holly had to bring in the bird feeders and change how to uses her property. The bear changed Holly’s enjoyment of her day. And, in caregiving, you know that it’s soooo hard to feel like you’re losing another part of life which brings you joy.
Today, Holly told us that she and the bear co-exist amicably. The bear, Holly said, taught her to change her expectation of what gives her peace. Before, she thought she could only be at peace when surrounded by multiple bird feeders and hundreds of birds. Now, she says, she finds peace in the visits from the birds, no matter the number.
In essence, Holly let go of conditions. Before, she put a condition on feeling peaceful. In order for her to be at peace, certain conditions (the number of bird houses and birds) must be met. She’s removed the conditions and found greater peace. She accepts her reality–the here and now of her life–which brings her peace.
So, I’d love to know: What do you no longer fight? What do you now accept about your life? Please share in our comments section, below.
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