After a summer like this one, thinking of getting a bumper sticker on my car, “my other vehicle is an ambulance”
I’ve been down this road before.
Near the beginning of the shift you check your loved one, you check in with the nurses, hear the report from the previous shift, get the results of any tests completed, find out the Dr’s plan for the coming shift, make sure they have your instructions and your contact info in case of an emergency in your absence, check your loved one again, leave to run errands, stop by to check in several times during the shift, near the beginning of the next shift you check your loved one, you check in with the nurses…
Dad has a Urinary Tract Infection and is on antibiotics to treat. It’s made some difference but the infection is lingering. Still not eating or drinking. Largely unresponsive. I squeeze his hand and talk to him during my visits. Since his eyes remain closed I make sure he can at least feel me present.
When I visited Mom last night at her bedtime, she thanked me several times for coming by, told me I should go to bed soon too… and then told me I had better make her a good breakfast in the morning. Mom hasn’t changed.
There is no overt indicator that Mom has any awareness that Dad is absent but I think I can pick up a subtle difference in her.
My plan tomorrow is to bring Mom from the nursing home to the hospital to see Dad. I don’t know the pace of Dad’s journey but I’ve learned from the deaths of my wife and brother the importance and timing of final visits. It is time for Mom to visit Dad.
Monday will include the “feeding tube” conversation with the Dr and I plan to contact hospice. There will be a couple of other Dr calls planned for both Dad and my daughter. The new school year starts for my son on Monday. Monday is going to be fun.
Took my son to get a haircut for school and my daughter and I went to a movie. See, we do normal stuff too.