Recently read an article about the differences between men and women. Acknowledging that these are somewhat stereotypical, the gist was that men focused on “getting everything right” often at the expense of the amount of things which got done. The male lament was “I’m one decision away from failure.” The result was constant risk assessment and often decision paralysis.
Women focused more on “getting everything done” and had days filled with cooking, cleaning, kids, school, work, after school activities, shopping and maybe family time.
While seeing some truth in these descriptions what struck me more was how we caregivers (and single parents) tend to do both.
Caregiving responsibilities tends to fall more on a single member of a family. Male or female, we feel the need to get it all done: cooking, cleaning, working, shopping, school, family, and leading the way, providing the caregiving needs of their loved one; AND we often feel the burden of having to get it all right the first time. The consequences of being wrong are too great.
Little wonder so many of us are tired.