Well, you may think, this is just a mess.
It could be that literally you stare at a mess–a stack of laundry that dates back two weeks, a sink that hold days of dirty dishes, a closet that spills from too much.
Or, it could be that you feel the mess. The stress of a caree’s decline seems to tear into the relationships you have with family members. The constant demands in the day mean you and your caree share too many curt words. The worry about the future makes the easiest tasks, like walking the dog, seem almost impossible.
Or you could simply be the mess: Too quick to tears, too much in confusion, too often in pity. Your hair is suddenly and uncontrollably frizzy. Or gone.
How do you clean up the messes–outside, around and in?
Start by telling the truth about what messes you up. Say it to your support group, your closest friend, your journal, us. And, remove judgement about the messes. Your judgements (“This is the worst!” “I’m awful at this!” “I’m the only with such a horrible life!”) help start this mess.
Simply speak what’s difficult for you, what you dread, what you fear. Because this is difficult, dreadful and frightening. With the truth told, you can move into finding and implementing solutions.
Your truth is like a broom brushing your messes into the corner so you can gather them up and quietly take them to the garbage. With the mess behind you, you’ll find yourself again.
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