Sep 28 2012 in Meryl's Blog by Meryl
A few weeks ago Mom was told that the catheter for dialysis is clogged and needs to be cleaned since it is not running to full capacity. Nothing has been done since then so we figured it was better. Today I get a phone call from Mom that she needs to go to an access place to have the catheter cleaned and she needs to have someone go with her. I asked if she can make the appointment for the weekend and the doctor had told her next Saturday. Now all of a sudden the appointment is changed to this upcoming Tuesday.
Right now is my busy season at work up until October 15th. No one ever calls my brother for anything. It’s always me. I asked her to call him and she refuses so again it all gets dumped on me. Mom can have someone go with her from the nursing home but that costs money and she doesn’t have it and I can’t do anything right now because I am still trying to dig myself out of this mess that happened to me several months ago.
I got clearance from my job to go with Mom and right after that Mom calls my brother to see what he says. If she already knew I was going why would she call him since she already knew what his answer would be.
I pay for everything for her. I pay for what she needs when she was in the hospital, snacks and whatever else.
Lately I have been so overwhelmed and forgetful that I missed the August payment to the nursing home for her pension and also when writing out the check to send for her pension I inadvertently transposed the numbers so now I have to come up with that as well. I decided to have the pension checks sent to the house and I will mail it there instead of going into her account and having to deposit/withdraw and then write out a check. I haven’t been feeling well again and have another doctor’s appointment on Tuesday evening for a check-up.
I try to take a deep breath now when this stuff happens but again the phone calls from mom and the nursing home become too overwhelming for me.
It always boggles my mind how my brother can live so easily and not give a damn but here I am worried about everyone and everything.