Rally
Sep 25 2012 in Denise's Blog, Weekly Comforts by Denise
At the end of your caregiving experience, you’ll find yourself wishing for a rally, hoping your caree can turn another corner, regain that lost strength, recover to where she was.
You’ve had so many rallies in the past, it can be hard to believe one more rally just won’t come.
And, when that rally doesn’t come, you may look to the sky and scream, “Didn’t you hear my cries for another rally?”
The last rally which does not come may leave you feeling alone and broken, distraught at being duped. I just needed one more rally, you may think.
When the rally doesn’t come and the grief and anger begin, do your best to have a few quiet moments. In those quiet moments, the angels from heaven will rally around you and whisper, “Thank you.”
You have your last rally.
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Bette said on September 26, 2012
Denise,
Thank you. This is beautiful and represents something very solid to lean on.
Trish said on September 26, 2012
That’s beautiful, Denise. What’s interesting is often times there is a rally at the end but it is short-lived (Hospice even discusses this in their literature). I think that’s what was difficult for me at the time (thinking mom was turning a corner, she was going to be with us for longer than we or the doctors thought). Looking back after 13 year (this month), I am happy she had that one last rally. She was able to eat what she wanted, my grandmother was able to cook it for her and we had a delightful day. A few days later, she took a turn that she couldn’t recover from (and at the time I wanted yet another rally) but I eventually became very grateful for that one last rally.
Thank you for this beautiful post and picture, Denise. You brought back a wonderful memory for me.
Karen said on September 26, 2012
Wow! This really hit me. Mom had so many rallies. She came back so often. At the end, she had one last rally and had a really good day.
When she died, it was so hard for me to accept that she wouldn’t just sit up and ask what all the fuss was about.
I am so grateful that our family was able to enjoy that last time together with Mom. I am grateful that her suffering is over.
But, selfishly, I wanted another rally that would bring her back for awhile.