When So Much Changes, Can the Love Stay the Same?

On Saturday, Holly, who cares for her husband, Dave, joined me for Table Talk on Your Caregiving Journey. You can listen to our show via the player below.

Holly spoke about the changes that have happened in her marriage since Dave’s diagnosis of dementia. The changes are difficult, particularly those that impact their intimate life. We spoke about how Holly manages her sadness and how she works through her feelings when she sees, for instance, a couple holding hands.

I’d love to know what you think: When so much changes in your relationship because of caregiving, can your love for your caree stay the same? Please share your thoughts in our comments section, below.

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I began working with family caregivers in 1990 and launched CareGiving.com in 1996 to help and support them. Through my blog, I share words of comfort and offer coping strategies and tips. I also write opinion pieces about recent research, community programs and media coverage of caregiving issues. I've written several caregiving books, including "The Caregiving Years, Six Stages to a Meaningful Journey," "Take Comfort, Reflections of Hope for Caregivers" and "After Caregiving Ends, A Guide to Beginning Again." You can purchase my books and schedule a coaching call with me in our store.

4 thoughts on “When So Much Changes, Can the Love Stay the Same?

  1. Donna

    I honestly can’t thank you enough, Holly, for sharing this. I’m 42, and my physical relationship with my husband changed in the same way five years ago following his brain injury. I appreciate your amazing positive perspective on life. I am also striving to feel content and fulfilled by demonstrating unconditional love.

  2. Avatar of PegiPegi

    Thanks for sharing Holly. This is a great topic most people don’t even think about. Your daily life changes and you tend to just go with the flow. But I understand what you mean, I really miss a good bear hug from my hubby!

  3. Trish

    This was a terrific show! I appreciated Holly opening her heart to us and talking so honestly about her situation. Thanks to both Denise & Holly for a great show and for the crowd in the chat room. (If you haven’t been in the chat room during one of Denise’s shows, then you haven’t had the full experience of her shows!). :-)

  4. Catrina

    An excellent show Denise! thank you Holly for taking on this subject from a personal perspective! this is a subject that affects all of us. I feel love does stay, but do think there are changes, physically and otherwise as we adapt to the ‘new normal’ .I think a maternal side emerges often as we care for our loved one, but I feel the original feeling of love is with us. When I see couples getting a big hug, I know I miss that a lot! Holly, please keep a chapter in your new book for this important aspect of affection and love. It needs to be addressed and you are the perfect one to address this very real though rather private aspect within caregiving.


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