A few weeks ago, as I was leaving the house to take a walk, my mom updated me on a younger relative’s dating life. Isn’t it wonderful, my mom said. She’s going on another date.
Now this younger relative is a beautiful young woman, inside and out, and deserves all the good that comes her way. I truly believe this. And, yet, as I walked, I felt green.
And, not green from a beautiful growth of charitable thinking.
It was the green that accompanies that green-eyed monster.
What is this about, I thought?
And, then it hit me: I’m afraid of being left behind, that my life choices mean I’m stuck in last place as others move forward. I turn 50 soon. I’m afraid I won’t ever have what I want. I’m afraid it’s too late for me. I’m afraid I’ll always stand on life’s sidelines.
Okay, I get it, I thought. What do I want to do about it?
I decided to keep walking. Because if I stop walking, I truly get left behind. When I keep walking, I have a chance to pick up what I want along the way. As I walk, my hands stay empty. I can receive. I can give.
I can keep my choices.
You may find yourself wondering if you’ll be left behind because of caregiving. Time doesn’t stop for us. It also doesn’t excuse us from its steady tick because of circumstances we can’t change.
And, yet, even though time doesn’t stop, our possibilities continue.
A thought shared during our last Hot Topics talk show truly comforted me. We spoke about what we believe happens after we die. Jane, ejourneys, Richard and Bette shared their beliefs and thoughts. (You can listen to our show via the player below.) After the show, I thought, We continue. Because we continue, our chances do, too.
Meaning, our current situation doesn’t end our life’s chances. We always have a chance to create the life we want, to continue to walk as we give and receive. We don’t hit a dead-end; our path continues, even as it seems to veer off-course. If we keep going, just maybe, the sidelines can lead to our life’s starting position. Perhaps we have all the time our life needs.
When do you worry you’ll be left behind? How do you cope? Please share in our comments section, below.
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