Dec 20 2012 in Caring for Parents by lisa_renea
In an earlier post, I wrote about my mother’s Rheumatoid arthritis and how it’s hard for her to catheterize herself. Well, today she had an appointment with her rheumatologist. But she decided this morning not to go even though she needed to see how the meds are affecting her bloodwork and if the medicine is helping. So, our conversation this morning was:
“Are you going to the doctor?” I asked.
“No, I don’t feel like it,” Mom responded.
“Oh, then shouldn’t you be going?”
“No, I’ll go after Christmas.”
Oy. She’s hurting but she doesn’t want to go to the doctor. She says her meds aren’t working and if they don’t work soon she’s going to quit taking them. They may not work; I don’t know because obviously I’m not her. However, when she DOES take them she seems to move better and her mood seems to be better.
I get that she doesn’t like to take medicine. Neither do I, but if I didn’t, nerve pain would make it hard for me to walk. And guess what? I like being able to walk. I also like my mother being able to walk and not in constant pain. Sometimes I try to force her to bend to my will because I love her and want to see her health improve. Boy, that works really well. But it’s also tiresome that she doesn’t take good care of herself and we play the same old game over and over of:
“Yes you will.”
“Oh no I won’t!”
Anyone else with this problem? Or anyone who might want to help me hog tie Mama?
- Rheumatoid Arthritis Is Not “Just” Arthritis (caregiving.com)