How Do You Accept Change?
Dec 13 2012 in Your Caregiving Journey by Denise
This morning on Your Caregiving Journey, Ellen Rogin, our wealthness expert, joined me to discuss how to make a change. You can listen to our show via the player, below.
We spoke about the fear we have of change, how resistance to change makes the change really difficult and that we can choose the perspective about change which best helps us. Ellen shared a piece of advice about managing our goals, especially when we feel the change we want to accomplish is taking too long: Intention, Attention and No Tension. Meaning, we have to let go of controlling the outcome and let in what happens. (You can learn more about this concept, discussed in the book, The Passion Test, here.)
We know that change is constant in life. And, in a caregiving life, change is a given. Do you feel that you’ve accepted that changes brought into your life because of caregiving? How do many manage the knowledge that tomorrow may be very different (and much more difficult) than today?
Please share your thoughts about change in our comments section, below.
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Bob said on December 13, 2012
I feel that every day I’m learning more in managing change with respect to my caree. In the beginning, I thought almost each day, what things were going to be like. I found out I was very wrong (smile). There have been very difficult things that have happened I did not expect; and, days when I have been pleasantly surprised or grateful. Each day I am beginning to see lessons, most of which have been about letting go of my preconceived ideas of what is going to happen and being open to what is as reality unfolds. For me it has been about learning to trust my Higher Power more and more every day and drawing strength, nourishment,and guidance just to name a few wonderful gifts from the Inexhaustible Source of all that is Good. I’m conscious more and more over time, how I often fall back into unproductive thinking and my own projections
which so often are misperceptions that cause stress, anxiety, depression, worry,stc. I still have a very long way to go. But, I think I’m more in the class room of the school of life rather than playing hookie and going no where fast. Denise, thanks for the link to the Passion Test.
Trish said on December 22, 2012
I love the topic of change and my first instinct is to answer your question of “how do you accept change” with “kicking and screaming.” After reading your entire post, however, I realized I actually have come to think of change differently since I began caregiving.
Don’t get me wrong; I still don’t like it but I think I’ve accepted it is inevitable.
Looking forward to listening to the program! Thanks, Denise.