Unexpected Gifts

Sometimes we are handed unexpected gifts and if we aren’t observant, we miss them.  Earlier this month, Steve had an appointment with his neurologist.  His goal was to get 100% on his tests.  There really isn’t such a thing as 100% on the tests, but it was a good goal.

The next day, Steve was disappointed in how he did on the cognitive testing.  Steve did his best on the tests and found them to be difficult.  One one test, the doctor said that Steve did very good and showed no decline.  Steve took this as a negative because the doctor did not say he improved.  I looked at Steve and asked, I’m sure in a loving way, “Are you serious?!?!?!?!?” The doctor said that on all his other tests, Steve “improved dramatically” and that the changes Steve showed were not small.  The doctor said that Steve showed significant improvement in copying drawings, speed of completing tasks, number recognition and verbal fluency with no areas of decline.  I told Steve he needed to recognize how hard he worked and how much he improved and appreciate it.  It has taken a lot of work on Steve’s part over the last six months to reach this level.

Tonight I received an unexpected gift.  I haven’t used Pages on my iPad for a while, and when I did, I discovered a note my son had typed for me ten days ago.  What a gift!

101_2233Wishing us all many unexpected gifts in 2013.

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About G-J

I am a caregiver for my 59-year-old husband, Steve, who was diagnosed with Mild Cognitive Impairment in December 2009. His employer put him on disability and he had to retire one year later when he couldn't return to work. I am also the mother to our son who is now a high school senior. We have a cat, Sagwa, who rounds out our family. In addition to blogging here, I volunteer at my son's high school in the scholarship office, teach a class I created called, "Keep Your Brain Buff" at our city's Senior Center, lead a writing group at the Alzheimer's Association, and advocate for people with all types of dementia. In November, I will be participating in my third Walk to End Alzheimer's.

4 thoughts on “Unexpected Gifts

  1. Avatar of Sunshine=Sometimes

    G-J, You always make me aware of that which I am unaware. Bless your son for this little way of showing his love for you. It is the unexpected love which makes us the happiest. No?

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  2. Avatar of ejourneysejourneys

    Wow! That improvement of Steve’s is awesome! I can understand how it might not be where he wants to be — I see my partner struggling with her own cognitive issues. We are our own worst critics, so why should our carees be any different? I love that you inject joy and appreciation alongside the realism and the fact that all his hard work has paid off big time. And I love the surprise gift from your son! A blast from the (ten day old) past. :D

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  3. Avatar of DeniseDenise

    Hi G-J–First, Happy New Year!

    And, wow! Steve’s test results are great news. He has worked really hard and it’s wonderful that his efforts have paid off. Has he been able to find a different perspective on the test results?

    I love the picture. And, I love the sweetness of your teenaged son. :)

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  4. Avatar of KathyKathy

    G-J,

    Love love that Steve made improvements!!!!
    He has worked so hard and you have been such a wonderful support for him. BRAVO!!

    Awww a note from your son, how awesome is that?!
    What a blessing.

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