This afternoon on Your Caregiving Journey, @bobinMO joined for a great discussion on his coping strategy: Giving back and paying it forward. You can listen to our show via the player, below.
Bob is an active member of our community–he supports other members of our Caring for Spouse group and pops into our chats when he can. He joined our community with the purpose of giving back, which intrigued me. (You can listen to another show about giving, “When Giving Without Receiving Becomes Taking,” here.) We discussed the importance of giving, which he uses as a coping strategy in caring for his wife. You’ll love listening to his perspective during the show, especially when you understand the other side of his caregiving story: Bob is in a wheelchair because of an injury he sustained in 1997.
Bob spoke of his love for his wife and how he keeps his focus on giving to her because she gave so much to him during their 30-year marriage. He passionately spoke about self-pity–the most damaging emotion of all, he said. He also explained that we live our life in chapters, meaning we aren’t meant to move seamlessly throughout our life. We have beginnings and endings throughout. “Don’t compete with yesterday,” he said.
I’d love to know what you think. Does it help when you give back to another? If it does, do you make giving back a conscience effort? Please share your thoughts in our comments section, below.
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