justiceSome days, you can feel like the victim of fraud and the perpetrator is your life. On a day when nothing goes right and nothing feels the same, you think, “I got cheated out of a good life.”

Other days, you can feel like you commit the fraud. You’ll hear, “You are a saint to do what you do.” Which makes you feel guilty and fake at the same time as you think, “Well, when I don’t get enough sleep, I’m much more like Satan.”

Life’s a fraud. You’re a fraud.

Or not.

What if life is simply about doing your best? Maybe you are meant to do your best and when you can’t get enough sleep, well, maybe the devilish attitude is the best you can come up with. When you feel better, you’ll do better.

Just as you don’t want to feel like you pretend, life doesn’t want you to feel cheated. In his book, Man’s Search for Meaning, Dr. Victor Frankl suggests we stop wondering what we can expect from our life and instead ask, What does our life expect of us?

Life expects us to move through our days the best we can, bringing along with us whatever (or whoever) brings us moments of joy. We simply do our best, whether it be saint-like or simply human-ish, understanding our best changes throughout our day and throughout our life. We accept our best at each moment, giving ourselves a chance to be better in the next moment.

We accept our life can get better in each next moment, as long as we give it that opportunity.

That’s our justice.

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About Denise Brown

I began working with family caregivers in 1990 and launched in 1996 to help and support them. Through my blog, I share words of comfort and offer coping strategies and tips. I also write opinion pieces about recent research, community programs and media coverage of caregiving issues. I've written several caregiving books, including "The Caregiving Years, Six Stages to a Meaningful Journey," "Take Comfort, Reflections of Hope for Caregivers" and "After Caregiving Ends, A Guide to Beginning Again." You can purchase my books and schedule a coaching call with me in our store.

4 thoughts on “Fraud

  1. Avatar of RichardRichard

    Really enjoyed your blog. In it you mentioned, “Life expects us to move through our days the best we can, bringing along with us whatever (or whoever) brings us moments of joy.” I feel we are taken through the chapters of our lives and in them are the people we are suppose to meet and learn from, weither it be a positive ir negative reault we are there with them, doing whatever to learn whatever we’re suppise to. Yes, We simply do our best because that is what we are suppose to do. We run into road blocks and car pool lanes though out our life and those either speed us up or slow us down its a matter of how quickly we learn that particular life lesson. And then some us us go way off the road ways and come to a dead end and never make it or take longer to get to where their suppose to be. I feel caregivers were routed to the spot their in for a reason, to learn about, to care for or to teach, but we are all here for a reason it’s a matter of sitting back enjoying the journey and finally finding our destination. Enjoy the trip

  2. Avatar of PegiPegi

    Yes, I especially like “We accept our life can get better in each next moment..”. We have some nay sayers in our life, including medical professionals; they look at Hubby nearly a year since spinal cord surgery in the wheelchair. They think this is it. We believe he still may stand, then walk. He has to have that opportunity.


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