(Editor’s Note: Today we welcome @alyceev to our blogging family.)
Hi, my name is Lycee, and though I’ve been part of the caregiving community for years, I just found this out for myself today.
I have been providing care for both of my siblings for quite some time, but never termed it as such until now. I guess because they don’t live with me. To me, a caregiver has always been an “in-home” support, and/or that the person who is being cared for would have to be physically sick or terminally ill. I guess I’ve always placed too many rules on it.
My brother suffers from debilitating mental disabilities and my sister is very addicted to meth. My sister has children that call me for emotional support, too. I am the youngest of the three of us, but am in my 30′s and I’m a wife and mom, and have chronic health concerns of my own.
Besides God, my mom used to be our anchor. She passed away in 2007 from cancer, and I guess I just felt like since she wasn’t here anymore, one of us had to step up – not necessarily the strongest, but perhaps the most able. Now I am faced with so many decisions, so much pressure, really. And sometimes, honestly, it’s just too much.
It was during a bout of frustration, followed by an aim for balance – when I sat down and really looked at my life, trying as I might, to find balance – when I found out that I actually am a caregiver to them. Wondering what is wrong, and how can I fix it, and if any help is available.
I’m so glad to know that Caregiving.com is here, and that there is such a great pool of support here! Thank you!