Last month, while preparing our free webinar, Moving from Sacrifice to Compromise, I ran across Dr. Phil’s 10 Life Laws. In an article about his Life Laws, he suggested questions we can ask ourselves in order to make positive changes in our day. I can’t recall all the questions because I can only remember one:
What will you stop doing today?
For some reason, this idea of stopping really hit me. I’m always starting–a new idea, a new group, a new way to help. But, I often don’t look at what needs to stop in my day.
I gave this question some thought and realized I need to stop Taking It Personally.
Now, I often talk about this–that we may take it personally when life takes a turn we don’t want. I don’t take my life personally. But I realized I do take what happens in my life personally.
So, a few weeks ago, I decided not to take anything personally which, of course, showed me how much I took personally. Not taking it personally–and “it” means what others do, say, choose–has been energizing for me.
Not taking it personal means I don’t make it personal which means I’m much more open to opportunities and possibilities. What I viewed as threats (he or she does it so much better than me, he or she will get what I want, he or she will take what I need) now become opportunities. I now wonder: How can I connect with that individual in a way that benefits both of us? It also means taking a risk–putting myself out there by asking for what I want–is now easier. If I don’t receive what I want today, it’s not personal. It’s not because I’m not good enough or smart enough or doing enough. It just simply is. So I just continue to try.
When others win, I don’t lose. When others gain, I don’t get left behind. God doesn’t keep score, giving and taking from a list. He (or She) simply gives. So, why wouldn’t I simply give and receive as I continue to try my best?
Rather than feeling like I’m persecuted, I now feel I’m blessed. I have people in my life who can show me how to get what I want. They aren’t in my life to take from me but to give to me.
So, I’m wondering: What will you stop today? What thought or assumption or action which hurts you will you stop doing today? Please share yours in our comments section, below.
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