In caregiving, you focus on what your caree needs–medications at the right time, meals that he’ll eat, the right amount of juice to fight off dehydration, clothes that fit (and stay on), enough bathroom trips and changes to stay dry, a good night’s sleep, safety during the day and at night, activities to stave off boredom, checks for sugar, weight, blood pressure, temperature, pain.
In essence, you’re keeping your caree alive.
With all the focus on that life, it can be hard to turn the focus to your life. Because, compared to your caree, staying alive seems so easy.
Except so much focus on another can mean a little bit of you dies on a regular basis–your friendships, your hobbies, your down time, your fun time, your off time, your inspiration, your health. Slowly, it’s all gone.
You can keep your focus on your caree and, as you can, turn the focus to yourself. Maybe not every day but often enough so that you can take back some of what you love.
You’ve been entrusted with the care of another. It’s hard, it’s exhausting, it’s nerve-wracking. You were trusted not because you would give up your life but because you would keep your life as you care for another. Because giving up your life won’t improve any else’s life.
When you can, turn the focus to you. Your life depends on it.
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–During caregiving, you can feel like you just can’t get enough comfort. We’ve got comfort you can take with you–either as books, eBooks or MP3s. “Oh, Denise, I love the MP3s. I listen to them every day. Thank you so much,” a family caregiver says. Buy Take Comfort and Take Comfort, Too, available as books, eBooks and MP3s, here.
- Shade (caregiving.com)
- Needed: Your Stories About Loss (caregiving.com)
- Now Available: The Caregiving Years, Sixth Edition (caregiving.com)
- Bring Comfort With You (caregiving.com)
- Video Chat: Managing Changes in a Caregiving Marriage (caregiving.com)
- Now Available: A Guide from a Caring Friend (caregiving.com)
- ARGH: It’s Not About Putting Your Life on Hold (caregiving.com)