Easy Breezy Summertime

summerI’m experiencing a unique time in my life. For the first time in over six years, there is no immediate, pressing, red-letter emergency brewing. I haven’t been to the Emergency Room in months. No one is in the hospital. No rushed trips home, only a few urgent phone calls. It’s been weird.

Mind you, I remain as busy as ever. Mom is still a dementia patient residing full time in an Alzheimer’s facility. Mom readily admits she doesn’t know who I am but she’s happy and my visits almost always involve laughter and play. I’m still a single parent with a young adult with special needs and a teenager living at home. I still work full time (when the federal government doesn’t have me on Furlough). I still average four to five hour of sleep per night. But I’ve managed to find time to start a new personal relationship and the lack of crisis has been startling.

You know the old saying, “If you have nothing good to say, don’t say anything at all”? I realize now that I had fallen into the reverse thinking. “If I didn’t have a complaint or problem to write about, I didn’t have anything to say” which couldn’t be farther from the truth.

Who doesn’t need good news? Who doesn’t need to know that there are calm, peaceful days and seasons in this journey of caregiving, that it doesn’t have to always be moment-to-moment, by the skin of your teeth, barely making it by, that there are times when people cooperate, the systems works, your loved one is content and you have no excuse for not getting much needed rest. That you can be a caregiver and still find time for a personal life. Weird, huh?!?!

As has been well written here before, success comes from forming and using your team. It does take a village. Caregiving.com has been an invaluable source of encouragement (still think that @Denise has been cloned into several people working simultaneously). Having a full-time facility for Mom has been crucial. My faith and religious community have been critical components. For all of these reasons I take no credit for the peace I’m currently enjoying.

But it sure is nice!

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8 Comments on "Easy Breezy Summertime"

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Jul 9, 2013

HURRAY!!! I’m doing a happy dance here which, you know, the dogs are really wondering about. :-)

You are so right about the caregiving days, Jo. I always appreciate your insight and wisdom and am soooo happy for you!

Thanks for letting us know!

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Jul 9, 2013

Jo, Don’t sell yourself short. Everything you’ve gone through, all the test, trials and tribulations, doctor appointments, Emergency phone calls, rushing home because of a phone call all of these and more “YOU” pulled yourself through them. You woke up each morning to take on another day to face another sunrise and made through another sunset. “YOU” did all of this and so much more and I say that because I only know you from a few paragraphs, but I do know what it’s like because I have been there with myself (Chronic Pain), my mom (Strokes, Heart surgeries and more) and my BIL, who has epilepsy and lives with us. So you can see, I’ve been there and know exactly know what it takes to get where you are now and what you have done to get here. Pat yourself on the back everyday you wake up and tell your “I did it, I made it.”
. Great Job!!
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Jul 9, 2013

I definitely find myself more likely to blog when things are rough – it becomes kind of like therapy – and who needs therapy when things are good? But, it is great as an outsider to read about other’s successes, calm periods, etc. So, thanks for sharing!

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Jul 9, 2013

Hi Jo–I love good news!! I’m sooo glad to read your good news. I hope the easy breezy summertime lasts, well, as long as possible. You deserve all the love and ease that sits with you under the palm tree. :)

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Jul 9, 2013

Yes, Jo, it is GREAT to hear good news! I think there are definitely seasons for all that we go through and the key is that we get through and come out the other side refined by our experiences able to encourage others! Thanks!