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My Perspective on Depression

What is depression and what to look for, from my view of things.

To start off I would like you to know I am not a doctor and am not claiming to be or saying that these items listed are the only things to look for. Depression effects everyone differently depending on your body type, health, medications you on, amount of exercise you get. These are some of the symptoms “I can remember having” over the past 20 plus years.

All of these symptoms I have had and the majority of them so has my mom (from having three very rowdy boys). Neither of us ran into a road sign telling us that depression was right around the corner.

Depression can include but may not be limited to:

- Concentration problems

- Feeling guilty

- Feeling hopeless or worthless

- No interest in participating in other activities (football, baseball, dance classes, shopping, etc)

- Excessive overeating or lack there of

- Increase in pain and body aches

- Constantly sad or down in the dumps

- Sleep more than normal

- Restless

- Irritability

- Negative self talk

and many more.

These feeling or symptoms do not have to come all at the same time or even at all. You may go days or weeks feeling great and then one morning you wake up and just don’t want to get out of bed and get moving. I know for me, there were (are) days where I still don’t want to get up or don’t want to go to the store even though we are out of everything and unless we decide to feed Robert ketchup and mustard for dinner, wait we used the last of the ketchup last night.

See, when I am depressed its not something that I can just wake up and say, “WOW, I’m depressed today.”  I will go through my day like normal, a bit slower and moodier but because we have Robert , the dogs and my job, I know I have to get up and put one step in front of the other and deal with it. Most of my symptoms are taken care of with the Cymbalta (low dose) the doctors have me taking and my own drive to not let it affect me. I do understand how if you are single, retired, elderly, no pets relying on you, how depression could step in and take over everything. 

In a recent blog I posted on PickYourPain.org and on Caregiving.com, “Need a Hand Up,” I discuss the issues of my mother and the early diagnosis of depression. I ask in that blog if anyone has ideas of what to do when your trying to help someone with depression, especially if you yourself have it. One of my fellow caregivers commented, “Having been diagnosed with depression and generalized anxiety disorder myself, the best thing that my husband did for me was just be there. The other thing that has helped is being able to explain what I am feeling without having to explain why. Just having support is a great place to start.”

As you can see, many of us with depression may know that we’re feeling a certain way but we just don’t know why and when asked to explain why causes further frustration because we can’t.  It’s like seeing someone in a store and knowing you know them from somewhere and their name is right on the tip of your tongue but for the life of you you can’t say it.

There is nothing wrong with feeling under the weather or depressed. In a study  posted on WebMD in September 2010, the Center for Disease Control (CDC) stated that an estimated 9% of Americans report they are depressed at least occasionally, and 3.4% suffer from major depression. So, Please, Please, Please if you are, think you are or think someone you know is depressed, please see or suggest they see your doctor.   \ : ^{ ) >  Thanks for reading, Richard

For more information on and to talk with others who are caring for or have depression themselves, please join our Depression group or search through the many other support groups available to see if one may work. for you.

About Richard

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My name is Richard (@kreisr1), I am a partial caregiver to my mother who has COPD among other health issues.  I am also a co-caregiver for my brother in-law who has had epilepsy his entire life and now after living alone, in a care facility and a group home setting we had to move him in with us to provide him with the care he needs.  Finally, with my wife who is also my co-caregiver I care for myself, I have had chronic pain (mid-low back) for 21-1/2 years thanks to a drunk driver.  I write my own blog, pickyourpain.org where I share my pain with humor, as I see thing, "Pain Without Humor is Just Painful."  I am involved with caregiving.com in several ways, as well as participating in several of the weekly caregiving.com blogs, I also am involved in their Twitter chats, I also host the following groups, SPOT (Stamp Procrastination Out Today), A Task A Day, The Men's Group, Healthy Caregiver and several others.  I am also the moderator for the Caregiving.com Quiz Show and have a seat on the bi-monthly Hot Topic's show. I'm here to not only improve Roberts life, the lives of those I touch on caregiving.com and pickyourpain.org but to find a way to improve my own live.

3 comments

  1. Avatar of Chris

    Another thing I. would point out is don’t feel ashamed. it happens and the quicker you do something about ti the better

  2. Thanks for you post. Yes, please if there is anyone reading your post who is suffering from depression, see your doctor. If he prescribes anti-depressants, take them BUT, and this is a big BUT, get therapy. Pills are only a short-term solution. The behaviors and thinking that caused or contributed to your depression won’t go away because of a pill. They’ll only hide below the surface. Unless you are on certain medications, or have a contributing illness(and even then), there is much you can do to help yourself.

    Good luck and I hope you continue to do better.

  3. Avatar of Richard

    Rebecca, Thank you for your comment you had several items I had forgot to add. That is the good thing about other caregivers and those who have been or are depressed reading this and supplying the ideas. Thanks to everyone who’s reading and to those commenting. Namaste’

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