Remind Me to Remember

Easter Sunday 002

Sometimes even I forget who I’m dealing with. The other day I asked Dean to help me remember an appointment I had the next day: Eleven o’clock at the insurance office. I knew it would be right after his nurse and bath aide would be here, and I was hoping I wouldn’t get so busy around the house that I’d forget the appointment.

But after a couple of hours of Dean asking me repeatedly what he was supposed to help me remember, I knew how foolish it had been to give a memory-challenged person such a task. He was trying so hard to carry my burden of remembering that I just couldn’t come down hard on him, although my patience was wearing pretty thin about it.

Finally, we both just had a big laugh about the futility of my assignment, and it suddenly lifted his burden of remembering and gave me an alternative to screaming at him.

Bless his heart, he still remembered even the next day that I had something to do at eleven o’clock. He couldn’t remember what, but at least he remembered to remind me. Now, that’s love.

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  1. Profile photo of Richard

    Teresa, I guess that goes to show you how much he truly cares for you that he is taking it on and pushing himself to remember something for you. God bless his heart for trying, I guess since he was able to remember 2/3 of the task I would considered that major. Give yourself a pat on the back for holding it together and for even asking him to try. Your only human. Great Job Teresa as the saying goes,
    Live, Love, Laugh etc., etc.
    / : ^{) >

    • Yes, Richard. I guess love and laughter are our greatest caregiving tools! We use them profusely around here…always did love my husband’s sense of humor, and I’m so glad we still have that to share.

  2. Profile photo of Trish

    Teresa, This was so sweet! I could feel your frustration and his persistence but most of all your love. Thanks for sharing this story, it really warmed my heart this morning.

  3. Profile photo of EllysGdaughter

    I think it’s great that you entrusted something to your hubby, treating him “normal” :) It is so good to have things to laugh about together and sometimes appointments just aren’t super critical time-wise! Hurray to the two of you!

  4. Profile photo of ejourneys

    I agree with Richard, Trish, and EG! I love that Dean was trying so hard, and that you could both turn frustration into laughter. We do that around here, too. :-) Big Kudos to you both.

  5. Profile photo of Pegi

    Agree with the rest of the group…it was probably good for you to give him what felt at the time like a small assignment. It is a beautiful testament of his love for you that he did rememeber. Laughter and love, you got a good thing going for you to somewhat ease the weary days.

  6. Profile photo of Denise

    Such a sweet story. Your story is about how much changes and yet how much stays the same. :)

    Wishing you a day today that you’ll always remember.


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