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This Weekend, Grill for a Family Caregiver

Grill2When you care for a family member or friend with a chronic illness, your world gets smaller. And, so does your family member’s.

Family caregivers feel isolated in their role. They feel bogged down by their responsibilities, so much so that they find it hard to find time to socialize with family members and friends.

And, their carees feel isolated because of their age and/or their chronic illness and disability.

It can be a very lonely experience for two people. Especially during a holiday weekend. Because in caregiving, there are no holidays.

To help alleviate some of the loneliness, even for a few hours, CareGiving.com encourages family and friends to visit with the family caregiver and caree in their lives this holiday weekend. CareGiving.com asks these family members and friends to hold a barbecue during this holiday weekend for the family caregiver and caree.

To help make the event a success, we’ve got a few tips for those family members and friends planning a barbecue:

  • Contact the family caregiver as soon as you begin to plan your visit. Ask the family caregiver: What time is good for dinner? How long should I plan on staying? Often, a family caregiver and caree are tied to a schedule, based on care needs, medications and endurance levels. Be sure to keep in mind their schedule when planning your visit.
  • Bring flowers–they will be a reminder of your visit in the days that follow.
  • Keep in mind the purpose of the visit is purely social. Problems, concerns, issues should be addressed at other times.
  • Reminisce with your caree; this is a great opportunity to learn some of your family’s history.
  • Encourage the family caregiver to sit and relax. Assure him or her that you will take care of the details.
  • Appreciate the inner workings of the relationship between your caree and your family member who provides the care.

We believe Grill for a Caregiver is a great way for the family to get together, even if only for a few hours, to enjoy each other’s company. And, the family caregiver gets a break from cooking!

(Would you like to help spread the word? Join our Facebook fan page (www.facebook.com/CaregivingSupport) and share our Grill for a Caregiver post. Thanks so much for your help!)

About Denise Brown

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I began working with family caregivers in 1990 and launched CareGiving.com in 1996 to help and support them. Through my blog, I share words of comfort and offer coping strategies and tips. I also write opinion pieces about recent research, community programs and media coverage of caregiving issues.

3 comments

  1. Avatar of Sue

    What a great idea! I am going to visit my mom this weekend and although she doesn’t have a grill available, I’m going to take all the fixins for a crockpot meal and flowers and maybe I will get my daughter to make a Fourth of July craft for her! My dad is not aware enough to enjoy much of anything unfortunately. But, I will have my daughter make a second craft for his room at the Board and Care. I took a sunflower to him for Father’s Day…maybe some red, white and blue flowers for the Fourth. Thanks for the reminder.

    My daughter and I are spending the Fourth alone for the first time in many years. Last year my in-laws came here and my husband took the day off (he works at camps for seven weeks during the summer, so we are on our own). But, he took this past weekend off instead and his brother and wife have a new house with a pool where his parents live – we were invited, but it just seemed like too much to drive six hours there and leave my mom alone for the weekend. So, I’m staying here for the fourth and going to my mom’s on Friday and Saturday. It is kind of depressing to think of spending the Fourth alone and I put out a note to my mom’s group seeing if anyone else was looking to hang out, but no one responded. I may put out one more message on my general FB to see if anyone with kids her age are doing something. But, the plan is to go to our city’s events in the morning, then the swimming pool in the afternoon for a bit (too hot to stay for long), then home in the afternoon and then Barnes and Noble’s parking lot to watch the fireworks (sounds weird, but it is really good viewing from there and we can hang out in the AC of the store until they start).

    Hope everyone else gets at least a bit of a celebration tomorrow!

  2. Avatar of EllysGdaughter

    Tomorrow, we’ve been invited for BBQ burgers by my friend, brand new widower, so we feel honored. I wish folks would come and have dinner with Elly since she enjoys visits with just her… When we are around she exerts her control and it’s uncomfortable for us and for our guests.

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