Birthday Celebration: Today, Honor Your Caree with a Story

love-600x600Every day this week, we’re celebrating CareGiving.com’s 17th birthday with activities and prizes, including a grand prize of $300.

Today, we’re celebrating in honor of your carees by sharing a favorite memory or story.

What’s the memory of your caree, during good health, that you treasure the most? What’s your favorite story about your caree? What memory of your caree will you hold dear for years to come?

Share your memory and stories in our comments section, below. When you post a comment here, you’ll be entered into a chance to win one of our daily prizes and one of our grand prizes. To win a daily prize and/or a grand prize, you must be a family caregiver, a member of CareGiving.com and participate in one of our daily disrupt activities. Not a member of CareGiving.com? It’s easy and free to join; just go here.

Have fun!

Congrats to the winners of yesterday’s daily prizes:
@comicvixen won a copy of @ejourney’s eBook, Caregiving in Five Lines;
@tiredamy2007 won copy of our eBook, An Anthology: Help, Comedy, Forgiveness, Gifts, which features the stories of family caregivers;
@brilea5029 won Take Comfort and Take Comfort, Too, the MP3s, audio versions (in my voice) of my books, Take Comfort and Take Comfort, Too.

Look for an email this afternoon with your win.

Resources
Learn about our week-long birthday celebration, including our eligibility requirements to win the daily and grand prizes, here.

Reminders
Be sure to share what caregiving is like for you in our annual family caregiver survey. Take our survey here. Please ask other family caregivers you know to complete the survey, too. (Thank you!!)

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14 Comments on "Birthday Celebration: Today, Honor Your Caree with a Story"


Profile photo of Jane
Member
Aug 5, 2013

This isn’t a memory of Nicole prior to diagnosis but one that just occurred in July. This would be her Make-a-Wish trip (that really wasn’t a trip). We went down the road to Orlando and stayed at the Ritz-Carlton for four days. Nicole met her best friend Shayne who lives in Maine. She has known him for about 5 years and they have been best friends for the last two of those years. They had never met in person.

I will always remember the smiles, laughs and the joy on Nicole’s face and even Shayne’s. I haven’t seen her smile and laugh like that in years.

Hugs:o)
Jane

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Aug 5, 2013

My favorite story of my caree is when she was going into surgery to have her lung drained and scraped of build up cutting down on its available air capacity and they were trying to get a vein to insert an IV into. Mom had already been in this hospital before and the doctors new her well. So the tech comes into insert the IV and we start like we usually do by telling them that she is normally a very hard poke (out of the gutter everyone) and it usually takes 3-4 techs and minimum of 2 stabs before they get it and the majority of the time they end up having to go into the back of the hand. Well this Airmen 1st Class (A1C) pumps out his chest and taking that as a challenge says, “I can do it and it will be on the first try.” Anyone care to guess what happened? Some of you guessed it,
after sticking mom three times we hear, “Excuse me but I need to call and get some help.” Next tech comes in, two down and how many to go. At this point me, mom and little brother are taking bets. Now pediatrics comes in and brings their black light (used for premature infants) but the tech and we’ve stepped it up to a Captain wants to try it old school, free hand and at this time right before the back light was brought in, mom has been poked 6 times from left arm to right arm to left hand and then right hand they’ve even been looking at both hands, feet, back of both upper arms (triceps) and the neck. The Captain gives and pulls in the “Black Light” which is suppose to mask the color of the skin and highlight the veins. Worked but two needles later nothing now we are down 5 techs, 4 techs in training, to pediatric specialists and the most recent a surgical specialist who is going to be in mom’s surgery in about 45 minutes. We are 2 hours running on trying to get a vein, every joke possible about blood, nurses, doctors, her surgery and much much more has been said and everyone is in a calm mood because of it.

Several of the techs afterwards thanked us for keeping the mood light and for not arguing or getting upset with then for hurting or having to stick their loved ones more than once. Finally Dr. Pratt, attending surgeon and all around great doctor, was called and updated on the situation. Within minutes here he comes rushing through the door, was briefly updated and the said something to the point of, “Clear the room.” In seconds left in the room were Dr. Pratt, his surgical assistant and an A1C. Through a small opening in the draw curtain we could see what was happening and were close enough to hear also. He took a few minutes and looked at the backs of her hands, mom still throwing out jokes when he said “We have to go into the neck. This will also keep us from having to put in another IV in the surgical room.” A IV needle, tube and saline solution bag was grabbed off the tray and in one decisive push he was in. After all that, it came down to one man, one needle and one neck, mom’s. After he was done he said it was so nice to see a family so involved with a patient and that if all you do when in the hospital is worry and stress, the recovery time is longer. Also that if when you’re sick, disabled, stressed, etc and all you ever do during the recover time is stress and worry that test have proven that the recovery time is longer than those patients who add humor, laughter, smiles and and overall positive attitude. Fill your thoughts, your room with items, thoughts and people with positive attitudes and that bring positive vibes with them. I hope you find this as positive and funny as we did. Namaste’ / : ^{ ) >

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Member
Aug 5, 2013

Pecan, Mincemeat or Lemon Meringue?

My favorite memory of my grandmother who was a caree of mine when it came to taking her to lunch or being asked if I could drive her to one of her medical appointments. This is a favorite to the majority of my mom’s seven brothers and sisters and will be one of the top three if asked, “What do you remember most about your grandmother/mother?” Mom was at work and upon arriving home entered to find grandma laying on the floor heading to the front door where the local newspaper and shipping companies left deliveries. Now grandma was no small woman so when we say she was laying on the floor there had to be a reason a major reason. Within fives minutes of mom getting home I received a call I will never forget, “Richard, I think grandma’s passed away. She’s on the floor and not moving” WHAT?? I’LL BE RIGHT OVER.

Sure enough she was, mom had thrown a sweater over her face because she couldn’t look at her. 911 had already been called as well as the closest brothers and sisters, I was her first call. After about 10-15 minutes of being there moms siblings began arriving as did the fire department. While waiting we figured out the only reason grandma used that door was to collect the paper or packages delivered. Sure enough there was a pie from the “Pie of the Month” club her and mom had signed up for. So grandma passed doing one of her favorite past times, eating desserts. Grandma loved to eat even when we would ask her if she wanted anything else she would usually say, “No thank you, I’m full” and then you would find her up at the dessert buffet or getting another helping of mashed potatoes, and so on. What made the evening even funnier was that the fire department (FD) what a great bunch of guys, remembered mom and grams from the last time they were there, remember at the beginning of this blog when I said, “grandma was no small woman” well when the FD realized what house they were at they waited to move her because they needed a total of six (6) guys to maneuver grams out of the home. I will tell you the pie Blueberry and boy was it good. We saved a piece for you grams, at least until it started turning out penecillin.

There’s always a positive in everything, you just may have to hunt for it. Namaste’
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Did I get any on me?
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Member
Aug 5, 2013

How bittersweet and touching, @Richard.

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Member
Aug 5, 2013

I have a lot of favorite memories of my husband. That is one thing I will never be short of are the good memories because he is such an amazing character.

I think my favorite memory would be of him and my father. They both came and picked me up from work one day and as I was getting into the car he tried to hug me but I wasn’t expecting it and his head went into my armpit. For some reason they were both really giggly that day (who knows what they’d been talking about before I got in the car) but I said, “Get outta my armpit.” And they both started laughing hysterically. To this day, if I say the word “armpit” Marc will start cracking up like it’s the funniest thing he ever heard.

I still have no idea what was so funny that day but the sight of him and my Father rolled over in hysterics was quite entertaining.

AND

…anytime he’s hanging out with my nephews. He is great with kids. And I have one picture that I’d love to frame one day with him sitting in the middle of the floor and the two youngest were next to him, Santi (the youngest) was leaning over his back with his arms on Marc’s head and the other was leaned in next to him with his head on his chest and Marc was playing on his little handheld video game device. They all looked so very serious.

Hopefully, one day we will have children and I am lucky enough to see that same sort of scene again :)

Happy Monday, all!

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Member
Aug 5, 2013

Love this, Casandra.

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Aug 5, 2013

‘MY DOOR ALWAYS OPEN!”

Even thou I have many memories of my neighbor “Jody” . .. .
I would stick routine in ADL’s and find creative new ideas for our time together.

I’m the type of person my door always open to friends, and as well as my Caree who lives right across the street.

My favorite memory would have to be one morning when I went over her house her Husband “Lloyd” was awake chit chatting with me while Jody was sleeping. He was upset her condition of Alzheimer’s would get worst over time. I comforted him and told him it’s okay I’ll never leave her & be by her side.

As Jody woke up I followed with my routine. I fixed breakfast eggs, sausage, toast, yogurt and orange juice, while Lloyd proceeded to give her daily medication. After, breakfast she brushed her teeth, followed a shower of course with Bath & Body Works (Jody’s favorite!)She loved her showers about 45mins some days even longer. Can’t for get the smell goods like lotion and body sprays after a shower! Also, a routine of getting dressed; which was dressed “top to bottom” from the top of your body to the bottom. Bra, depend, blouse, pants, socks , and shoes. All fresh to start the day!!

Then shortly after that I visited for awhile And listened to music which she sang every tune better than I can. The music calmed her and relaxed her. Then I decided to get back across the street telling Jody I’ll visit later and check on her. She replied “okay”

I walked back across the street to my house, I remember she looked lonely when I left. My family always left the door open to glance over and keep a eye out on Jody. My family and I were cleaning and so on. While I heard someone at the door, it opened up it was Jody. I asked her if she okay she said yeah. So, turned on cartoons she loved while my Daughter got her some juice and snacks. I quickly called Lloyd inform him she over my house, he already knew he couldn’t stop her in case she got combative or resisted. I told him she fine over here, and when she willing wants to come back home I’ll escort her back myself. He agreed, and Jody had a great social time. She also talked to my family with smiles and giggles that filled the air.

She decided after almost 2 hours she wanted to go, I accompanied her back slowly and safely. She was tired and wanted ready for bed. I assisted her in toileting, brush teeth, and changing into night clothes. Shortly after she walked around the house then went into bedroom lay down by herself went to sleep. Lloyd was in kitchen with me I told him what Jody enjoyed and had fun at my house. He replied She trusts and loves being with you, your so good to her. I replied “Lloyd my door always open for Jody!”

“My door always open” because all are welcome to feel at home and relax make themselves at home, with snacks, television , movies, and good company, so come on in!! The good things in life & remember that “MY DOOR IS ALWAYS OPEN!!!”

In Loving Memory Of

“Jody”